Please please please help me!!

[Mitch8685]

Please help me, I’ve hit rock bottom and don’t know what to do.

my ex has caused me nothing but grief for absolute years, I’ve been terrorised in my own home with numerous police call outs. I’m in band B for a council house for my welfare to get me moved out the area but they are not doing anything to help me.

tonight he had a fight with my neighbours who don’t like me anyway because they are his mates, now he has caused murder with them and made me a target! He rang me saying a group of lads know where I live and I need leave.

I am absolutely terrified, I’ve fled my house and had to come to a hotel in case something happened to me and my child.

i can’t go home , I can’t be in that house, I feel sick with nerves, I can never sleep or eat or relax and god forbid anyone knocks on my door I just have a panic attack. I think I’ve been suffering with some sort of trauma for a long time.

please who can I call what can I do, I am literally begging for help, do I go the doctors, go up the council and get on my knees. If I had the money I’d be gone but I don’t have any savings and can’t afford private rent especially these days.

i can’t believe someones made me that scared im crying in a hotel jumping at every noise.

please any advice i would be grateful

I'm really sorry I have no helpful advice (others will so hold on) but I'm very glad you & your child are safe in a hotel tonight. You made a good decision x

Call Women's Aid they will help

Another vote for women's aid here, how utterly terrifying for you and your child xx

Why would a group of men bother with some guys ex partner?

Sorry op but I'm calling bullshit. He's probably just trying to scare you. You said it yourself that he's harassed you for years.

Even if its true...so? What are they gonna do? Ring your doorbell and run away.

He's fucking with you.

Try get a good night's sleep.
Get yourself a ring doorbell with a camera fir your door if possible.

And pursue a restraining order against him (I think they're called injunctions here?). Sounds like it's long since overdue.

You should call the police OP, he has after all, through his actions, threatened yours and your DC’s safety. Even if he lied about the situation and it isn’t true - he’s deliberately made you fearful that you will
come to harm - that’s assault. If you are feeling threatened call them for advice so it is at least logged. They may want a word with him so if nothing else it might make him think twice before pulling a stunt like this again. So sorry you are scared. You are likely to be extremely safe where you are though. They would not know where you are and could not find out which room you are in if they did. Do you have anyone you can call for support to come and see you and help you through all this? Sending massive hugs and hope you get the support you need. What a pig! Xx

Call the police and a women's help line to see what they can do

Please call the police xxx

Yep ring the police and women's aid I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm so glad you and your child are ok ❤️

Im really sorry you're going through this OP.
I know someone who went similar and recognised that desperate need to be in a safer home in your post xx

Call the National Domestic Abuse helpline. Sometimes it's very hard to get through so also check if there's a local Women's Aid or other domestic abuse service you can call now. Some have 24 hour helplines but unfortunately it's very area dependant. If you're not in one of those areas, the national domestic abuse helpline has a voicemail. You can leave a message asking for a callback.

I think you should go to a refuge so you have somewhere to stay while waiting for the council to move you.

If you can't get through to the domestic abuse service and for some reason they don't call back, call the police or emergency out of hours social services. In your situation, they have a duty to find you somewhere safe to stay.

Ring women's aid. They will get you to safety

www.womensaid.org.uk/

If it's been going on for years, it's high time you stopped believing him. Why are you even letting him contact you with these tall tails? He should be blocked on everything.

If he's domestically abusive you are entitled to apply to another local authority for emergency accommodation to flee. You need to call the national domestic violence helpline to seek advice on what to do.

What exactly has he done to make a gang of “lads” want to target you?

Get some help asap.
Can you have someone stay with you?
You have a right to be safe.
Police, womens aid.
Hang in there.
Barstard mental men.

Call the police and file a report stating what has happened. Ask them to come and check the security of your home and that it’s secure, and to put a flag on your address so they respond immediately to any calls. Ask them to contact the housing team to share this information.
Call your gp for an urgent appointment and let them know what’s happening and the impact on your mental health. Ask them to contact the housing team to share this information.
Tell the nursery/school what has happened and that you’re temporarily out of the home. Ask them to contact the housing team to share this information.
Call the health visitor/school nurse and share your concerns about your children’s well-being. Ask them to contact the housing team to share this information.
Go to housing and let them know what’s happening and that they can expect to hear from the police, gp, school/nursery and health visitor/school nurse. You can request that they put you in emergency accommodation but this isn’t always that local. How credible do you think the threat is? Do you think there is a chance it might be your ex trying to frighten you? If so you could try and remain where you are for longer but say that you need to be placed on a higher band to be moved more quickly.