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Do surnames matter if you split?

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Oreocake24 · 17/05/2024 20:33

Hi all

i stupidly agreed to give DD her fathers surname and we are now no longer together.
I wanted double barrel but was talked out of it and in the haze of the newborn stage I think exhaustion took over and I was just in agreement to do what was the easiest option rather than arguing over ‘just surnames’.

now we are no longer together I am really panicking about what this means. Stupid me I know, should have thought about this first.

can her father take her away without my say so? I of course keep her passport but technically could he do that?
could he stop me from doing things with my own daughter?
Does he have more rights than me now?

OP posts:
Runningbird43 · 18/05/2024 11:25

Dadjoke007 · 18/05/2024 10:40

I must admit in not a fan of there double barrelled surnames. But what happens in 30 years when 2 such people have kids. Quadruple surname!!! Or the painful task of ditching one each?

People always bring this up as an argument agains double barrelling.

yet the Spanish seem to manage perfectly well.

why is it more painful to ditch a grandparents name than a parents?

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