what is this

[Mirrorspacetick]

I have or had a 'friend' and I don't understand her behaviour. Recently I've felt put down when I've seen her (subtly) or like she is in competition with me? why?
I came off Facebook as I almost felt stalked by her! I recently got promoted which came with a payrise. Now she has had a payrise, she's done the job I'm doing before, apparently. Why is she doing this? is she insecure? doesn't she like me? I've tried to distance myself as I no longer enjoy spending time with her, I find this behaviour very strange! Shes very nosy trying to gain information. Is she getting a kick out of trying to put me down?

You are giving her way too much headspace and power.

Some people are very competitive and always want to be "better". Sounds like she maybe one of these people. Distance yourself and don't give her any information.

You'd have to have a chat and ask her as no-one here can tell you.

Obviously you'll get lots of "She's jealous" replies, but really none of us know.

I don't understand the issue.
You can block her on FB.

You’ve been to Tenerife but she’s been to Elevenerife, that kind of competition/ put down?

Some people feel insecure and bolster themselves by endless comparisons.

@CountingCrones, yes, it's tiring, but she is very clever with it. Almost like a bully

It's late, I'm probably overthinking it. I'll go with my instinct and not bother anymore. I'm annoyed at myself for feeling like I have to justify myself - she seems to pick on insecurities and enjoy it, like she is reporting back to someone else. Urgh.

Have you been friends for long? Do you think it could stem from envy or jealousy? If you’d miss the friendship, maybe when she next says something that upsets you, whether it’s in person, phone or text, you should tell her there and then and see what she says. I wonder if she knows she’s doing it or maybe there’s something going on she hasn’t told you about. If you don’t like her response or it happens again you should end the friendship.

I was just thinking she sounds like the classic Elevenrifer. They're so bloody annoying!
I had two in my circle and I've slowly cut them out as I couldn't be bothered with the constant 'well I'm doing THIS! How much better is that?!' on every Facebook post.

I didn’t realise this involved Facebook… just delete her and move on.