Controling partner

[Astara07]

So me and my partner have been together for 11 years and we have never had the best relationship as we dont always see eye to eye.

Theres a few aspects of the relationship that dont work... i will elaberate.

So we argue quite frequently, i think he has personality disorder but it's never been something we have talked about as I know he will deny it.
We live together and have a 7 year old child. I work part time and he works full time (owns his own building company) I have ended up paying all the bills at home and he ends up paying for food shopping, I don't think this is fair considering he earns wayyyyy more money than I do !
Also I feel like he doesn't tend to my emotions enough it's always all about him and how he feels ! He never ever helps around the house as he says I work part time so should have enough time to do all house work (I don't complain) I'm happy to do this.
He reckons I should be helping him with the running of his business and paper work on my day off - I do not agree!
We also argue over sex continueusly! If we don't have it for a week he uses the words .. "I haven't had a shag in a week" to my response I say well it would be nice for you to ask about my day or to give me a hug or a txt and maybe I would want to sleep with you but he reckons he won't do that coz I'm not giving him enough sex !
When we argue he does get quite nasty and put me down.
I just feel like I'm hitting my head against a well and don't know what to do for the best

I feel like I'm being manipulated by him but don't know if it's all in my head.
Help !

It's not 'all in your head' from reading i am not suprised you feel the way you do. He doesn't sound the kindest, most caring person (to put it politely).
Have you got support outside the home family, friends etc.?

Thanks for the reply @TheGladMoose
Yes i have a good family and friend network outside of my relationship thank god !

I am in the same situation with kids similar age, husband with the same company as yours. I’ve completely reached my tolerance level. Sending you hugs x

@Greenfinger7777 its so hard isnt it ! Hugs to you also ! X

If you're not married then you need to adjust the finances urgently. No doubt he's building up a very good pension with the money he's saving, which you'll have no access to if you split. Tell him you can't do work for the business on your "days off" as you're too busy doing all the housework and life admin. If you do ever decide to do some then insist on being treated like a proper employee and getting paid a decent rate, pension contributions etc. he's financially abusing you.

You should end things with him. At least if he is gone he will pay child support which would hopefully be more than he gives you now . Also think about the impact upon your mental health and the long term effects of it.