I really need to reach out for some opinions. I’m 44 married for 24 years, I met my husband when I was 19.
we have not had any intimacy for over two years. He sleeps in the lounge. Me in the bedroom. We have three children all in late teens.
My eldest is at university. We both have very stressful jobs. My middle child is incredibly ill. She has been diagnosed as autistic. She does not speak, communicates via sign language only and has severe care needs.
i have got a new job starting which comes with accommodation in September which could pave the way for a separation but everything is so complicated because of my daughter.
I am worried for the future as I feel like there is no way out. I know that if my daughter was well, I’d probably be seeking a separation but because she is so ill and dependent, I could not do that alone. I feel so lonely and know that at my age, that is not great. I feel stuck and frustrated and I’ve tried to fix it but my husband ignores me or shouts at me. He shouts about everything. He also binge drinks whenever he has a day off the next day, which is why I’m not really attracted to him and haven’t been for a while. I feel trapped.