So I will give the background as to what is happening with my DP but as its to do with his DC's and despite many efforts I dont think I can try any more to solve the problem. I just now want to support my DP without loosing my way!
My DP has two grown up DD's one is 19 and one is 23. We have been together for 7 years so whilst his DD are teenagers, I have always got on well with them as has my DP but over the last year things have fallen apart. I have only ever see him be a brilliant hands on parent, co-parenting with his ex in a healthy respectful way and will always be there for his children.
A year ago his youngest sent a message to him saying 'I want you to lower your expectation of seeing or hearing from me, I dont like being around you, our personalities clash and this stresses me out' This broke him, completely. They had a couple of debates about pronouns, religion, politics etc the standard teenage view clash with parent but nothing more - not even an argument or so we thought. His youngest has some seriously strong opinions and her Dad has his own views which he thought he could express as a healthy discussion but this then led on to her ignoring him, then sending a message to cease communication. She went off to uni, hasnt spoken to him (however when she needed money for the flat, food etc, her mum asked her Dad and he sent it...) He has been consistent with communication whilst respecting boundaries, always letting her know he will be there for her but not badgering her.
His eldest is better but is so heavily influenced by his youngest - his youngest DD is back from uni for the summer and now his eldest is refusing to see him also but not actually giving reasons.
My actual worry is the mental health of my DP, he is carrying this around in such a heavy way. He is self employed and sometimes he just cannot get out of bed. It has rocked his confidence so much at being 'hated by his own daughters' that I just cant seem to get through any more - its like he is slipping away. Its impacting his business, our finances, his relationships with friends and other family and of course there is an impact on our relationship when someone has lost their way.
I feel so helpless to him. I have tried to get him to speak to someone, go to the doctors etc but its so bad sometimes I worry about leaving him alone too much in case he disappears completely. :(