Am I overthinking?

[spiritsxo21]

So without much background. My partner was a very self centred person, who loved attention and his who fed. Which I don’t do very much as he starts thinking his better than the world.

So he got a new job in December and recently he has befriended a 18 year old he himself is 27 he buys weed from this 18 year old and keeps telling me we should go to a theme park with him, he came yesterday to drop weed off but my partner disappeared for 40 mins and it looked like they had drove off somewhere (I’ve not seen this guy or who was in the car couldn’t see from where I was I don’t even know what car it is) but when my partner came back there was no mention of he went anywhere and pretended as if he was just outside. He is making a lot more effort going to work, he has been talking about getting a hair transplant, teeth done etc.

Today he got ready all fresh to go into work on his day off (he was not needed there) he said he was only going to work to kill some time so he can go to his dads nearby to pick up the jet wash when I asked did he ask for it he said no and won’t call him for it as he might say no. He said he was going to pop into work first until his dad is around to see how it’s running because someone new is on shift lead (my man is not the manager of the store but infact a shift leader too) but anyway he got dressed went in and came home 2 hours later without the jet wash I asked if he went to his dads he said nah they said it was locked away and his dad wasn’t there so didn’t go?

couple of days ago he told me he cancelled a shift at a nearby store and went to football however turns out he actually went into that store before football but again never said anything to me.

am I over thinking this? We have history of him being unfaithful but not physically but he loved female attention and always tried to look his best so he gets the attention seems to be doing that again and going out his way to be in places he isn’t needed and isn’t paid for.

but lacks pulling his weight at home.. He loves to look good in the worlds eyes but at home he isn’t half as helpful.

No you certainly are not overthinking. There are many signs that this is not a good man and you can't rely on him.

He doesn't pull his weight at home.
He smokes weed.
He lies to you.
He has form for seeking attention from other women.
He has history of being unfaithful.
He's self centred.
You suspect, with good reason, that he's looking to cheat (or already cheating) again.

This is not a good man and he isn't capable of a healthy, grown up relationship.

You deserve so much better than him. Much better to be single than with the wrong man. Relationships are meant to make your life better. If not - what's the point? Being with someone like him will make your life worse, it will affect your self esteem, your self respect, you will be forever looking for the next lie, unable to trust him, you won't feel respected or supported. He is the opposite of a good partner.

Please - get away from this man. Your life will be much better, calmer, happier, easier. And in time you might be open to another relationship.

Read your own thread again and tell us if there is anything there about why you should stay with this man. He sounds really immature and really awful. Why would you want to be with him?