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Can ex partners be friends

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Justkeepswiimming · 14/05/2024 18:35

Just that really. Can you have a serious relationship. Marriage, kids, etc. Separate or divorce. And be friends?

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GreyCarpet · 15/05/2024 19:32

CulturalNomad · 15/05/2024 15:32

It's possible for some people as long as they're capable of being ruthlessly honest about their motivation to remain friends. If there's even the tiniest hope of reconciliation on one person's part then it's a recipe for heartache.

Personally I've found it easy to be on friendly terms with an ex but not what I'd call actual "friends". The relationship ended for a reason and I don't want that person to be an important part of my life any longer (which a friend would be). But cordial and " friendly"....sure.

100% agree with this.

CallmePaul · 15/05/2024 22:35

With an ex of many many years ago yes, we had no kids together tho, we get on great.

Ex with kids, kind of, a bit up & down, I think its really good for young kids for the parents to remain civil & we can cope spending time with each other, well mostly.

Edited to add, I think in my case it's exactly as described above, friendly, but not friends.

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