Should I be upset that he does this

[3sausagedogs]

Thank you for reading this x
I’ve been seeing this guy since March. He takes me out on dates, we stay in when I don’t have my kids and he wanted to have to exclusive chat. He says he’s only seeing me and he likes me. When he stays over (when I don’t have my children) on a Saturday night, in the morning he likes to go home and spend Sundays by himself. He can then go quiet for a couple of days. I would like to go out for breakfast or lunch, go for a walk, or the gym together just do something together on a Sunday, but he likes to go home. I don’t push it because I think it’s quite a new relationship and people do need space. I wondered if anyone else has found this, or if anyone else likes their space on a Sunday so can relate to him x Thank you

Honestly, if he’s not interested in making plans to do stuff together at this early stage when things are new and exciting I really don’t think he will change. Sounds like he likes his own routines and space which is fine-as long as he meets someone else of the same mindset.

I think you probably want/need someone with more spontaneity and more of a “couples” life so maybe he’s not the one for you. You don’t want to be feeling resentful or waiting!

It sounds like he's a bit reluctant to commit at this stage. It's up to you if you feel that after 2 months he should be giving a bit more. Early on when I met my husband I was reluctant to have him stay overnight and be with him every day as after a few years of being a single mum I liked my own routine and needed my down time. But things changed as the relationship progressed and then I wanted him there all the time.

This was 100 during my 5 years of dating - I was happy to have someone stay/stay at their place on a Saturday night, but Sunday morning I wanted coffee on my own sofa and my own routine.

Whilst dating people I wasn't really invested in.
I'd literally launch them by 7.30.

The first Saturday my now husband stayed, I didn't want him to leave in the morning, I wanted to go for a walk and share coffee. That's when I knew.

If he's anything like me...he's just not that in to you.

Oh my god, same!
last guy I was seeing would be waiting for my daughter to leave on the Friday. He would be here straight away and wouldn’t leave until just before she returned on the Sunday and it was draining!!! I had no time for myself, nothing. Constantly wanting to do things when I just wanted to chill and relax as I’d been running around after a toddler all day every day. I’ve been single for 10 years now and I love me time. I couldn’t imagine having to share my time with another human now. I think I’m best single 🤪

Two months in should be very exciting! Not dull routine. At two months in my current dh and I were having 13 hour dates because we were infatuated. And we orobably hadnt had sex yet.

You've been seeing him 5 minutes. You're uncomfortable with his scheduling and level of contact. He won't tidy up but prefers to avoid his own mess. You think he 'scares easy'.

Is this the definition of a man you want a relationship with?

Sounds fine to me. If I could manage to score a day to myself on a Sunday I’d jump at it. Sounds like he has a stressful and quite full on job. He needs time to himself to decompress.

Responses like this are strange. You'd be fine with it, so everyone else 'should' be, too? If not that, then what are you getting at?

This. All the posters saying they couldn't wait to kick the bloke out in the morning for some alone time. Yeah, sorry but they obviously didn't like them. If you really like someone you want to spend as much time with them as possible. Especially if you're time together is limited to once a week.

When do you socialise with other people? What happens if you do something without him on a Saturday night? Would he see you on a Sunday then or skip a week?

How about saying one Sunday morning 'Ooh, the sun's out, do you fancy a walk in the park and a cup of coffee out?' He might feel threatened if he feels you are asking him to commit to every Sunday, but you could ask him once and see how it goes.