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My Friend

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Inspireme2 · 13/05/2024 01:35

I have been friends with a guy for 2 years in that time I was in a relationship.
I liked our friendship until he got it in his head. I would be the type of person he wants to be with.
He believes we have a connection he has never had.
His family has a child with autism who he claims likes playing with my child. I feel it's a companion to be near..I find this difficult to grasp tbh.
This has been a reason they visit often.
Since becoming single, he thinks we would make a great couple, I do not.
He has ocd and anxiety.
He is constantly tense and hates his wife, who sits home all day without contributing towards income or housework.
I find it all intense and odd compared to what my life is and other people's relationships.
Basically, I'm trying to say friends only, and that's it.
He sulks when I query his complaining about his home life, becomes very negative about my ex who I care about.
He is socially awkward and met someone in my family who said he's a bit different.

3x he said it was nice to meet you.
He claims he gets all excited and talks over me as I make him feel happy, hos partner & him sit in different rooms and don't speak much.
I find it suffocating as times
We work in the same company, and I only intended to be friends. Help!

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Blondiiiii · 13/05/2024 01:41

If you're only intending to be friends then I would set some boundaries with him.

I would have a conversation and tell him your relationship will never go beyond friendship. Maybe also suggest that you won't be able to stay friends with him if he keeps making inappropriate comments about a potential relationship with you

He sounds like a complicated person to be around tbh... I don't think I could even be friends with him. It sounds like he's a little bit obsessed with you in a weird way

kiwiane · 13/05/2024 02:50

I’d ask him to stop coming over - he sounds self absorbed and wants to cheat on his wife.
You need space to build up your own social life and to date others if you so wish. You are being used.

category12 · 13/05/2024 05:24

Yeah, I think you have to be firm with him and stop the visits. You're going to end up in a right mess if you don't.

You might have to be very direct and potentially end the "friendship".

Olivia2495 · 13/05/2024 06:10

This man isn’t your friend. He knows you’re recently single and he’s acting like a predator.

I would not have this man in my home. If you want to continue to meet do it somewhere public. He sounds like a weirdo and potentially dangerous.

Lighteningstrikes · 13/05/2024 06:44

Shut this down with him before this esculates and gets nasty.

You do know he's coming round to see YOU, and not because his child gets on with yours.

You will never be friends because this weirdo is obsessed with you.

BlastedPimples · 13/05/2024 06:49

I would shut this down totally.

SamW98 · 13/05/2024 07:21

Stop him coming over and fade him
out as a friend.

He’s obsessed with you and it’s creepy. Shit it down now before things escalate.

Inspireme2 · 14/05/2024 10:29

I appreciate the advice and will be limiting my contact with this guy.
Some really great advice.

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