Dating help Needed!!

[PennyLaneIsInMyEars]

Hi asking for help with dating please. I've had some really unsuccessful attempts at online dating, before Christmas got out of an abusive relationship with an alcoholic. Now I've just started spending time with someone from my small home town. We knew each other /knew if each other for a number of years and have recently been attending the same classes. We are much older for the dating scene... We've been out a few times, on walks, for coffee, for a social with friends but it's not been explicitly said were dating. Although we've spent hours talking and very close, looking into each others eyes etc, but nothing physical has happened. He is going to call me tonight. Just wondered should I ask about if he thinks we're dating? I'm being very awkward I feel. But last time we spent hours and I felt sure we would kiss but then, not much happened which could be construed as romantic. Help? Advice much appreciated.

How did the call go?

It sounds to me like you've developed a close connection with this person, which is a great start. It's natural to feel a bit unsure about where things stand, especially after coming out of a difficult relationship. Since communication is key, it might be a good idea to have an open and honest conversation with him about your feelings and where you see the relationship going. You could mention that you've enjoyed spending time together and ask how he feels about the relationship progressing. This can help clarify things for both of you and ease any uncertainty. And remember, it's okay to feel a little awkward – vulnerability can be part of building intimacy.

have you considered suggesting a more romantic outing, like dinner or a cozy evening together. Creating an intimate setting can help you both feel more comfortable expressing your feelings.

You just got out of an abusive relationship 6 months ago. What work have you done to protect yourself from falling into another one?

That asside...ask him if you are dating? (Not if he 'thinks' you are). Just - 'so are we dating or whats the deal?' You need to get used to voicing your needs.