DB began having a relationship with a lady about 3 months ago. They have been spending a lot of time together and get along really well. She seems like a nice lady. I have only met her a few times, but they both appear happy, which I'm happy about.
DB is 29 and his gf is 24.
They recently decided to travel around some parts of the UK, starting with the south coast, and are due to leave next week.
Myself, our parents, DB & DB's girlfriend met up last weekend for a meal, and during the meal, DB's gf mentioned that they had paid an impromptu visit to someone she knew at their business, to introduce DB, say goodbye and to explain that she was going travelling with DB.
My father, ever the curious type, asked if this was a friend, and DB's gf looked at DB, and he replied that it was an old flame of gf's.
In what I found to be quite a bizarre conversation that ensued, gf began explaining that she had met this person about a month before meeting DB, this person was engaged to be married, and DB's gf met him through her work. I found the conversation bizarre because it's not the kind of thing I would partake in, nor discuss with my partners family over dinner, even more so in what is a relatively new relationship.
(In short, her job involved selling her companies products to other companies, and that's how she met this person.)
This person was not interested in her companies products, but she visited him again at his business, and invited him to spend the evening at her parents house, where she currently lives.
They spent an evening together, after which she says she didn't see him again.
My parents were puzzled as to why, after not seeing this person since just after New Year 2024, gf felt she needed to pay this person a surprise visit, introduce DB and explain to this person that she was leaving the area to go travelling.
She described it as a fleeting experience, but called him an old flame.
It seemed to be a friendly conversation between my parents and DB's gf, and she appeared to enjoy regaling the tale to them, except now DB is concerned that gf was somehow using him to elicit some sort of response from this person.
I don't know what to make of it, if anything, and DB is not on here, neither are my parents, so I thought I'd ask for your thoughts.
Is this something that has happened to you? Have you been introduced to a brief ex fling with the sole purpose being to explain you have 'moved on'?
Is this even a thing?
Should DB be concerned that gf still has hopes that something more evolved with this person?