Is the problem with me, my boyfriend, or both?

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I’m at my wits end here.
we both have depression and anxiety.
I need a lot of reassurance through physical and verbal affection.
my boyfriend doesn’t give me much of either.
he says that’s just the way he is. But I am the way I am and need more from him.
I feel like I’m the one putting effort in all the time trying to keep him happy. But I’m not happy myself. im currently going through therapy to address my mental health issues. He won’t go and seek more help and just relies on antidepressants. He doesn’t talk to me or open up. I’m always telling him how I feel but nothing changes.
im miserable and considering breaking up with him because my needs are not being met.
Am I being to rash or should I work on myself and hope things improve?

You're not suited. You can't be with someone who doesn't meet your needs. I've been there and it's soul destroying. Move on.

i think that’s what I need to admit to myself. I just want to know that I’ve tried everything before giving up

It sounds like you're simply not compatible.

He's happy how he is. Your not, so the pairing of you is incompatible. No one's right or wrong, you're just not right together.

Antidepressants have always been far more effective for me than therapy/counselling. Everyone is different. He doesn't have to open up. Neither of you are "wrong"- you're just very different. I can't see you making each other happy in the long run.

Thank you everyone. I’m going to talk to him about everything and see if we are both on the same page thinking we are too different.