Online dating advice

[newstart91]

I'd like to ask for advice on here.

Mainly people who have met their partners via online dating.

I'm on basically all the main apps (Hinge, Tinder and Bumble) and feel ready to be in a relationship but I know this takes time.

So far sending messages back and forth, and the conversations just fizzle out.

How on earth do you find the right person?

It's a numbers game. I'm only 3 months into meeting someone but I've had plenty of dates before, majority been awful 😂 I have always tried to get a date in early so not spending too much energy on the messaging loads. If wanting a relationship make sure it's on your profile. I also know where my boundaries are - sex chat before even meeting means I end it there and then 😂 get some thick skin and realise none of the ghosters etc mean anything, they're just strangers. Have a bit of an open mind when it comes to pictures, men are useless at picking good pictures of themselves I have found

It's a numbers game with online dating I'm afraid.

Also, you need to be absolutely 100% certain about what you're NOT going to accept from any guy you chat to, just to weed out the weirdos and those who are only online for easy sex etc.

Most people have a list of 'unacceptable' pics/conversation 'starters' etc

E.g
Anyone who starts a chat with only a 'Hi' or 'Hey'. = Zero effort
Anyone who hasn't bothered to complete their own bio. = Zero effort
Anyone with 'just ask' instead of info on their bio. = Zero effort
Anyone who quickly tries to move chat to Whatsapp =Unwanted dick pics or sex talk.
Topless pics, hunting/fishing pics and pics with multiple people so you don't know which one they are in the pic. = Likely older, married or unattractive

If you search the topic of online dating you'll get multiple threads about this.

@Autumntimeagain 'just ask' 😂 awful. Yeh if nothing in their profile was always a no. Stupid hat pics always a no. I try to imagine introducing the fella in a stupid hat to my best friends/family and imagine their reaction. Defo a good way to weed them out!

Anyone who starts a chat with only a 'Hi' or 'Hey'. = Zero effort

Or even worse - 👋

Cant even manage the effort of using actual words.