What makes you a catch?

[JamSandle]

Thought it would be fun to reflect on what makes us each a catch.

I know this board can sometimes be a deflating place if we've had bad relationship or dating experiences.

So focus on what makes you a great parter and person and share it here!

I'll go first:

• I'm very adventurous and up for most things. I love travelling, exploring, getting out and about and also staying in bed all day and having a takeaway. I think im a fun person to be around and I enjoy life.

• I'm kind and thoughtful. I like leaving little notes for loved ones, picking up gifts for them. I'm very generous.

• I've always been told I'm very funny and make people laugh.

• I have a good job, am ambitious but not crazily so and do well with savings.

• I'm a cuddle monster. I love hugs.

• I'm a big communicator. I like to be straightforward once I'm comfortable with someone.

• I'm independent. I'm very happy in my own company a lot of the time and like a relationship to enhance life.

• I'm pretty. Maybe not the prettiest girl in the world but I'm pretty. And boobs. Great boobs.

Your turn!

Name changed in case it's too outing. Female.
I have a professional career, and am very clever. I have numerous postgraduate qualifications and earn very well.
I have a great circle of close friends.
I can do most DIY tasks including building flat pack, fitting curtain rails, painting fences and assembling BBQs. I own a drill.
I love cars and all things Motorsport.
I am a great cook and baker. I make really good cakes.
I don't smoke but like a social drink.
I can name you the year of release for most songs (80s-current) without using Google.
I can run, cycle and swim quite reasonably.
I like sex.
I am a great listener, reliable friend and I keep secrets.
However the high earning and clever bit (together with having 2 kids and being nearer 50 than 40) makes me undatable.
Unless I settle for a geriatric man.
Which I won't.

Not meant to be. Just a lighthearted way of making people see their positive attributes. I see a lot of women putting themselves down on here so thought it would be good to flip it to...what do you like about you!

I’m a good friend. Generous, kind, honest, supportive.

Spouse- I am supportive, adventurous. DH didn’t want a dog but we have one, he’s amazing, loves DD, etc but there’s hair, so I know that’s a trigger for some.
I will stand up for people and animals- I will take you down (and have) if you hurt either. I have earned well. Was attractive, have been compared to Kim Basinger (until I dyed my hair brown and hit late 40’s). ☹️

No debt, married so own half of everything- would be ok if we divorced.I’m social at times, but no longer a party animal, don’t like people that much anymore. Well travelled, spontaneous, happy go lucky. I’m also peri and fucking raging. 🤔🤣

I wasn't unattractive, I'm outwardly confident, have a dry sense of humour, good taste, successful at work, oh and independently wealthy. Kissed a lot of frogs gold-diggers and found my Prince 35 years ago. He would say my boobs, my cooking, the comfort I offered.

@Attributesthreadnameswap although I'm early 40's I have the same issue as you around being a single parent high earner with DC.

So many of the men I've met online and been on dates with expect me to need rescuing at the outset, then when they hear about my lifestyle through our getting to know you conversations, I'm then described as intimidating! I would ideally love to have a living apart together relationship, as I have no desire to move a man into my house with my DC.

I have a good sense of humour,
I rarely get offended, I can definitely laugh at myself!
I’m solvent
I’m generous
Completely debt free
I’m still not bad looking for my years!

No idea if I'm a good catch or not. That's for them to decide, surely

I know I'm amazing and if they can't see that then we're not compatible.

I think im ok not the best not the worse but i say what i think im blunt straight to the point no faffing.
And that puts people off.
Ive been asked out 3 times in 9 year and each one ive turned down word must have got around not to ask me lol😆
I just say thanks but no im not looking for anyone sorry.
I had a friend that once said well you must miss sex i replied with not really i get plenty when im on holiday.
But i dont care what others think because im happy with me and my life thats all that counts.

I quote Howbizarre22, who posted yesterday at 15:32, as this sums it up perfectly:-

I’m not interested in being a “catch” as that implies impressing others. I’m interested in being happy & content in myself and being kind to others.

Says it all - and avoids sounding like a 1960's marriage bureau advert.

I’m open minded and curious. I’m well educated and in an interesting job that unfortunately doesn’t pay well! I care a lot about people and do try to meet their needs. I enjoy laughing a lot, I’ve got a dry sense of humour. I’ve been through a lot of adversity, can’t say it’s made me stronger but I’m very determined. I’ve got a good enough body. I cook great food!