DH rolling eyes and talking over me.

[Whatamuckykitchen]

I’ve started counseling and on her advice im trying to be more assertive with DH. Last night we were chatting and he rolled his eyes and cut me off mid sentence. I understand that it’s not the most fascinating line in chat, and he was thinking of our son being out late, but I get really fed up with this, it makes me feel all withdrawn and hurt, like I’m not worth listening to. I said I didn’t like it annd we sunk into silence. Anyway after a few minutes he’s off to bed, telling me to text our son in an hour if he’s not home.
I am So fed up with being told what to do!
I suggested if he wanted our son to be texted, he should do it as I’d be asleep, and also please don’t roll your eyes at me and cut me off mid sentence, I don’t like it and I’ve asked you before.
he got really stroppy and started telling me to F off and stomped to bed and told me to ,.ohh, just f off’ with as much vitriol as he could muster.
usually I get up and make coffee for us both. But I don’t know that I should. What do I do now?

Just book and go on your own. He sounds an entire arse and you'll probably enjoy yourself more.

Use the time to figure out what you really want from this relationship and how you can present it to him.

Life is too short to be constantly dismissed and disrespected.

Thank you, unfortunately it would put son in position of choosing between DH at home, or me away. Not sure that’s helpful.
but yes, figuring out to do!

Discuss with DH. Ask why he doesn't like going away and if he would prefer you go in your own.

If it's a friendly decision then it would be nice for DS to have the choice?

If you fancy a break could you ask your son if he'd like to go away with you for a few days? It would give you time to think as well.

My ex used to roll his eyes, talk over me, want to be top dog all the time & smirk at stuff I said & it used to drive me nuts. I was very easy going & lovely until I’d had enough!

Then I got assertive. The problem that this then brings a whole other load of other problems because basically they think you’re just being argumentative/awkward because you’re finally standing up for yourself. So they resist it & up the shittiness.

I would (when you’re both calm) tell him that his past behaviour has really got you down & now you’re at the point of not putting up with it.

Thanks all. I’m being more assertive- I’ll see how that goes. Thanks for the heads up stardolphins consider me warned!

My DH told me to fuck off..... Once.
I did exactly that, packed a bag and went to a hotel for the night, I didn't take my 'phone so he had no way of knowing where I was, or able to contact me.

When I returned home the next day, he had left a letter with a grovelling apology. When he came home from work, he repeated his apology, and assured me he would never speak to me like that again, and never has.

Mammoth!