New relationship

[marine38]

My last relationship ended due to domestic violence.
I have now met someone who appears to be very down to earth, replies to my texts is interested in me, has a great sense of humour is kind without manipulating and im starting to really like him. He says he feels the same. He has asked me out in 2 weeks time and tbh I’m just so nervous. My confidence is not great. how do I get over it to work up the courage to go and enjoy myself ?

It's often said that abusers reveal themselves early on, well before the actual abuse starts. Go out, enjoy yourself, but observe, observe, observe. Observe how he treats the servers, observe the ways in which he talks about his relationships with his family, with his co-workers, and certainly observe the way he treats you. Don't make excuses for bad behaviour - oh, he was having a bad day, etc.
And take it slow.

Good luck, OP.

This! And how he talks about his ex if he does

2 weeks time from now seems quite a long way off. Is he from a different town? Also, where are you going for your date because that could have a bearing on how nervous you are - i.e. a walk along the river might not be as comfortable as a meal in a busy restaurant? Don't want to make him sound like a serial killer but just make sure the environment suits you.

How long have you been out of the abusive relationship?