I am well known to these threads I think!
To recap - I am adopted by my maternal grandmother and her second husband who is not my grandfather (I call them mum & dad). My birth mother is dead and never met my birth father. My birth mother's dad and my grandmother's first husband has never had contact with me. I have only ever heard bad things about him from my parents and apparently he was against them adopting me. Apparently he was also mean to my birth mother, calling her a terrible mother for having me adopted (she had chronic schizophrenia and although a lovely woman, not capable of looking after me).
The other day my aunty (birth mother's sister and of course daughter to my grandfather) phoned me and said he would like to meet me. Before I would have said no believing all the terrible things. However my parents are toxic and I have a terrible relationship with them. Should I meet him to make my own judgement? Bearing in mind he is great grandfather to my DS (2). Or should I leave well alone? My parents don't even know about it, that is how much my family communicate! I am so confused