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clumsy123 · 11/05/2024 08:16

Hello everyone i have been dating a guy for 3 years now we have been living together for few months. He cooks for me, he is a family man , he is a gentle man . But when he is angry he speaks with me disrespectfully he says slang words and all and its not sometimes . its everytime he has anger issues . its been 3 times when he is over drunk he doesnt hit me but he pushes me shoves me and fight or things dont make sense. He is good when he is normal . i dont know if i should stay with him or not. I dont know if iam right or not. i dont want to share it with my friends and make him look like a bad guy. am i over reacting or is this not good.

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Motherfirstbeforeanything · 11/05/2024 08:21

Pushes and shoves you ,yes he does hit you,also he verbally abuses you. I think you need to break up with him ,it's only been a few months of you living together and he treats you like this.If you need further help contact Women's aid.

circumventM · 11/05/2024 08:47

please please say no children on either side involved in this mess?

CarolineFields · 11/05/2024 08:49

Leave today xx

Seaoftroubles · 11/05/2024 08:59

Definitely leave. He is verbally and physically abusive when angry and /or drunk.You will end up walking on eggshells if you stay so its as well that you've found out his true character early on. Don't hesitate, leave as quickly as you can.

Notamum12345577 · 11/05/2024 09:00

He doesn’t sound gentle!

Janpoppy · 11/05/2024 09:04

Plenty of people get angry - and they do not push/shove their partner, nor do they verbally abuse them or engage in psychologically destructive arguing.

Plenty of people get drunk - and they do not push/shove their partner, nor do they verbally abuse them or engage in psychologically destructive arguing.

If he is fighting and you find things don't make sense this will be having a huge impact on your psychological well-being - and it is easy to underestimate how harmful this kind of abuse can be and how hard it can be to heal from it.

His behavior is not acceptable in a relationship.

The most loving thing you can do for yourself, and for him, is to leave and not let him hurt you again. You need to leave for your own safety and sanity. Contact Women's aid for support.

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