I’m looking for somewhere to get a little support tonight, as I’m feeling incredibly burnt out.
My ex partner & I share a DS, we get on for a few weeks at a time but the minute I don’t agree with him I am accused of being a controlling manipulating narcissist.
I would like to take my child abroad, ex has told me that women are too vulnerable to take children abroad by themselves. I offered him to come, I would pay & he agreed. In return for this agreement he would cut down his overnights with our child from two to one.
We came in to a discussion about future partners & how long we would wait before introducing them to our child, I said a year & he said no other man would be involved in his sons life until he was five. I disagreed, and he told me I was disgusting, vile, a selfish c*nt & my version of reality is insane. He has told me we are no longer allowed the holiday which means a lengthy and costly court order.
Since this happened around two weeks ago each time I’ve seen him he has verbally abused me infront of our child, calling me a skank, a tramp a demonic demon. He causes me to get upset, and as much as I try not to react, I do, I don’t call him names ever, but I tell him to get lost and as my voice is raised my son gets scared. This truly breaks my heart.
He bent down so he was eye contact with my son & said to him, mum wants to introduce you to new men, she ruined mine & her relationship & now she’s trying to ruin ours. It is twisted and I can’t stand it!
We don’t have a third party we can involve for handovers.
I am so scared my son will grow up thinking this behaviour is normal, it’s so toxic!!!
What can I do? Should I stop my son seeing him until he gets a court order saying when where & how often he sees him?
Im so drained, I feel like im being bullied & my life is being controlled like a puppet on a string.
Any advice?