Pregnant by ex

[aevinn]

Picture attached. Clear as day right? Ex and I ended things completely a few weeks ago after a very tumultuous and traumatic previous 6 months. Had been no contact but I was late, so took a test after work. Can’t even dispute this the tiniest bit. Lines showed up almost immediately and I took the tests at 7pm.

im heartbroken honestly. I’ve had to contact him and break NC to tell him. I haven’t 100% decided what to do but I feel deep down it will be a termination. I’ve had one in the past and knowing I will have to go through it again is stress beyond words.

Hes moved on and I was healing from the relationship finally and now it’s like he’s back in my life for the time being if not forever and I was just starting to feel like myself again.

Not sure why I’ve made this post, I’ve confused in one close friend but this is all in the space of the past 2 hours.

Anyone? 🥺

Only you can decide. Hard but that's the truth.

Yes, it's clear as day.

You have a decision to make. Good luck moving forward.

Sorry to sound predictable but did you both take precautions? Being early on in relationships is precarious if you get pregnant.

That aside, only you know what you want to do so don't let anyone dictate. So hard I know, what does your gut say? Xx

Has he responded to you yet?

Oh it wasn’t early on, we’d been together years. Just the last 6 months were when it all started to crack and break down.

My gut says to terminate. Not even to do with him, I have mental health conditions that are very difficult to treat. I’m not mentally stable enough to be able to devote myself to raising a child. It would not be fair on them. I have a lot of unresolved childhood trauma that has resulted in terrible coping skills and inability to manage emotions very well. But hyper self aware enough to know it wouldn’t be responsible to put that on an innocent child. Especially since I’d be a single parent.

Yes, he says he’ll support me whatever the decision. But he means he’ll be there while I have an abortion.

Not even the slightest bit of a faded line to allow me some time to bury my head in denial. They’re such strong lines

did he say those words?

He did

then if you have this child don't expect him to be any use. what an arsehole. if you want the baby you would be better bringing it up as a single parent without some awful creature like this man clearly is. I wouldn't involve him a minute longer.

Aw, I'm so sorry. Can you get help to talk it through with someone? You sound very sensible and caring and I understand. What does your ex think? Wishing you the best of luck whatever you decide, no one can tell you what you should do. Sending hugs my lovely xx

He has a new girlfriend. She’s 20. I’ve actually spoken to her today. My ex is the type who will lie and lie until he’s blue in the face. Even when caught out, he will still claim ignorance. I thought she should know the situation. We had a good talk. I told her I was not interested in getting involved in her relationship but she had a right to know as ex and I will inevitably have to meet up to discuss things and I didn’t want her to be ignorant as I think there was some cross over between him getting with her and last sleeping with me.
I just told her I wouldn’t feel comfortable with him sneaking behind her back off to see his pregnant ex. She was grateful and I just reiterated I’m not trying to ruin his new relationship. It was a nice conversation all in all. She’s only 20, I feel sorry for her but I should be focusing on myself