He's leaving tomorrow....15 hours to go...

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H is leaving tomorrow. He's meeting new landlord at new property at 10 and will spend the day ferrying stuff there in his car.
It's right.
He's sitting watching TV just now with earbuds in, no conversation.
We will go to bed (whenever, not together but in same bed) and he'll keep me awake snoring and I'll feel shit tomorrow.
My 2 DS will not want to be around as he moves stuff. He is brusque.
Anyway I have ONE MORE NIGHT of shit sleep. Just THIS EVENING of him sitting on my furniture like a damp doom squib.
Feels like blimming eternity!
I've "encouraged"" this departure, he wanted to stay til the house sells.
I am sad and also very happy 😊

Wishing you happiness in your damp-doom-squibless new life, OP!

Thank you so much. I'm on a bit of a high, worried about finances/no adult company etc.
But ooooooo I'll be GLAD

I am very jealous of you - I am a few months away from this blessed position, but I will get there. Not long to go and you can almost count it in minutes - it will fly by! I hope you’re doing a nice tea tomorrow to celebrate for yourself. It might be hard on the DSs? But they will realise quite quickly how much lighter and happier the atmosphere will be, and you’ll all be so much more relaxed! X

Friend did the same last year - kids so much happier and relaxed!

You’ll be fine for company, you’ll find your tribe and be glad of the peace the same time.

It'll be amazing, you can do exactly as you please, and starfish in your big bed! I've been divorced for 7 years, I never tire of going to bed alone, with no snoring, I can't imagine living with a man again!

Good luck! It's scary but oh so exciting.

Oh goodness, that feeling. Sometimes you feel you'll never get there.
The first thing I did....throw "his" frying pan in the bin! It was symbolic of so much.
I still pinch myself at times - nearly 7 years down the line.

I had to move out, but I don’t think I will ever forget the sense of peace as I sat on my (borrowed) sofa on my first evening in my new home
I also love having my bed all to myself- bliss

Oh thank you...feel supported by the MN massive
plant keep making the next small step...you will be where I am before too long. It's taken me a while and H is the boys stepdad bcos their bio father is awful as well!
I am a different woman and you will be too

Oh my god the bed. The sleep. My DSs coming in to chat for a bit. If they want. Or not.
Freeeedom

charlotte yes! There'll be a few key "his" items going to the tip...

Oh your life will be your own again!! I've been there and I've never felt relief like it when the door closed behind him and he was gone. Divorce is hard, but it's harder living with someone you resent, it's like being married to the ick.

To be fair we didn't have kids, but it sounds like yours will be better off without him in the house.

Good luck, not long now.

You'll wake up tomorrow and your heart will be lighter and then every day onwards

I wish I could somehow harness this feeling and share it with women thinking about how to/whether to leave

Scratch and sniff style

Change his name in your phone to Damp Doom Squib.

Oh myopic you're so right

Done

Its the little things that bring you joy!

Sending you strength op

💐💐🌅🍸

Thanks coxes, I know I've sad times to come but overall, happiness

How did it all go op, has he moved out? Hope you are having a lovely evening.

Thanks bluebiscuits, yes he went. He took a couple of car loads, left loads of stuff here.

I had a slightly strange evening but easy, my boys happy.

And this morning I made tea and read my book in bed. H is a late riser. Ha!

I insisted he leave his key, so he'll have to arrange the time to return for more of his belongings.

Been there, I'm a year out the other side and it's GLORIOUS. I sleep like a baby, the kids are content, the house is full of easygoing peace, everything is lighter, brighter and happier. Good luck, keep going. You'll get there. 🙂

Thanks hoolihan 😊