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First time with him... continued!

19 replies

Tashaxoxo · 09/05/2024 17:44

Some of you might remember I posted on here last night about partner and I possibly having our first time sex during an upcoming weekend away. Thanks for the helpful responses btw, appreciate it. I've decided to go with the flow.
One other thing I just wanted to canvass opinion on (lol) is about what to actually wear for the night. We'll be out late, so need something I can change into quickly once we get back to the hotel. I'm usually a satin pijamas kind of person, nothing too revealing. I'm a size 14-16 with a bit of a stomach (stretchmarks on it too :(. Also have a couple of scars on my back which he's never seen before.
He likes my boobs, so thinking maybe some kind of strappy top that can just slip down for easy easy (lol) whilst still having my mid-riff a bit covered (as that's where I'm a bit self-conscious). My legs are on the chunky side too unfortunately so don't want to risk anything that makes me look ridiculous.
Hair up or down? Make up? (I only usually wear tiny bit of make up, but always have hair tied back because it's long and I need it tied back in my line of work).
I was thinking maybe satin type pijamas (I know his fave colour to see me in) with strappy top bit that slides down easy, then no underwear underneath. Does that sound ok? I know I'm probably waaaay overthinking it all but just want it to be special and not to look ridiculous. Thanks ladies, Tasha xx

OP posts:
LeaveTheClocksAlone · 09/05/2024 17:47

Mate. This isn't going with the flow

LawlessPeasant · 09/05/2024 17:48

LeaveTheClocksAlone · 09/05/2024 17:47

Mate. This isn't going with the flow

Yes, this is pretty much the opposite of going with the flow.

Candleabra · 09/05/2024 17:50

Indeed. See what happens when you get there. Believe me he has a good idea what you look like without clothes. You don’t need a load of props. Be yourself! And most importantly, enjoy it. It’s supposed to be fun.

SilverBirch99 · 09/05/2024 17:52

Just let it happen . I'm of the opinion if your going to be having sex , there is attraction already and no need to perfect it as they will expect that every time . Take me as I am so to speak.

KiwiOtter · 09/05/2024 17:52

I hope this isn’t some bloke trying to get off on the responses to this post 🤔

AgnesX · 09/05/2024 17:54

Just out of curiosity, what age are you?

mondaytosunday · 09/05/2024 17:54

Wear a short satin strappy nightdress rather than pjs!
And you really are way overthinking this.

Tashaxoxo · 09/05/2024 17:59

I'm 36 and can't assure you I'm definitely not a bloke. I do have a tendency to overthink situations, I'm guilty of it in all areas of my life. I've been on meds for anxiety in the past x

OP posts:
PersephonePomegranate23 · 09/05/2024 18:59

Realistically, will there be time to get ready into this outfit from whatever you've been wearing out for dinner or whatever? I don't think it'll be your PJs he's interested in!

EatCrow · 09/05/2024 19:06

KiwiOtter · 09/05/2024 17:52

I hope this isn’t some bloke trying to get off on the responses to this post 🤔

I’m wondering that.

if not, wtf thinks anyone cares about this? Very self indulgent.

jenny38 · 09/05/2024 19:29

Definitely take your make up off before going to bed. I very much doubt he’s going to care what you have on, whatever makes you feel good. Try not to over think it and don’t drink so much you don’t enjoy it.

Goodluckanddontfitup · 09/05/2024 19:59

That sounds lovely, he will love it. Enjoy.

ClawdeenWolf · 09/05/2024 20:47

Satin pyjamas, you'll slide right out of the bed.

Dadjoke007 · 09/05/2024 22:01

If he loves you he won’t care.

my ex had loads of things wrong with her “in her eyes” like mum tum, big thighs, cellulite… but I never saw just. Just loved who she was. Embrace your body.

DramaAlpaca · 09/05/2024 22:06

Relax! I know you're nervous but you are totally overthinking this.

intherough · 10/05/2024 00:43

LeaveTheClocksAlone · 09/05/2024 17:47

Mate. This isn't going with the flow

THIS!!!!

Ohnodontwantthiscrush · 10/05/2024 03:24

Hey OP,

I think a strappy nightie is your best bet in fabric that you love the feel of and that clings a little. Put on lots of body moisturiser before you go out, get a spray tan the day before and whatever your usual body hair maintenance preferences are.

You're not going to look ridiculous in any way to him, he thinks you're hot. It's not your job to look like a supermodel, it is your job to have a good time.

I hope you have a great night.

PoopingAllTheWay · 10/05/2024 03:29

If he has an issue of any of your ‘flaws’ then he is not the one for you!

Fraaahnces · 10/05/2024 03:32

Honestly, he won’t care if you are dodgy jogging bottoms and your brother’s t-shirt. Wear what YOU like.

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