Am I overthinking this

[Ash2345f]

So met a guy around 5/6 weeks ago fairly quickly met up and we’ve been on 3 dates since this coming Sunday will be date 4/5. When we are together he’s fully interested and really good crack. But it isn’t easy to try see each other due to competing childcare needs so dates can span up to 2 weeks between which I find slow and doesn’t help to keep things moving but it’s fine. Anyway the messaging is sometimes consistent sometimes not in between and he doesn’t really make reference to can’t wait to see me etc etc that sort of thing so I can’t really gage his interest in me. He’s referred to me being a bit of a planner jokingly which I am in general but I’m not sure if me organising things and arranging things has put him off a bit?! Not getting the vibes he’s really into me - he’s also still on hinge as am I which is no biggy. Am I overthinking this whole thing here someone please talk some sense into me haha!

Maybe he's just not a texter? I'd prefer not to be!! Concentrate on how you feel when you're actually with him - does he feel into you then?

Forgot about meaningless texting in between - anyone can be a pen pal. What you're looking for presumably real life connection.

Are you planning all the dates? I would probably drop back slightly (the comment about you being organised might have been an hint to ease up) and see if he is willing to organise the next date. If he is interested, I’m sure he will.

So he planned the first two, so I said I would plan the third which I did and then suggested where we went for this one on Sunday. I think I’ll leave it to him after Sunday and try and go with the flow.

I got a little carried away when we were drinking and asked him if he wanted to come to a gig with me I had booked too - which brought up the comment from him about me being a planner so I’ve not spoken about that again and won’t bring it up again.

Absolutely do not want a pen pal I’m prone to overthinking so trying to just relax and go with it.

He’s into me when we are together so just need to go off that, but my guts just telling me otherwise

If he’s still on the dating app is he busy going on other dates?

Chill out love.

I really like lots of communication so I get put off by someone who isn't.

We're all different. It depends how much this matters to you.

I’d give it a bit longer then review whether it feels like it’s going anywhere

Definitely just see how it goes, and enjoy it then. Try not to get too invested or think too much about where it is going, it’s such early days right now.