Matched with this guy online. He’s nice, kind and looking to settle down. Good job and stable income, life together. Im a few years younger but similar to him, I’m in a very good financial position, I’m driven and have my future planned, I have my own place and earn good money. I know I’m very pretty, I and have good criteria for relationships so I’m not in a rush or desperate. We are both young professionals.
But… not much sparks between us. The last guy I matched with, sparks were flying, oh boy we were both so into each other but didn’t work out because he has 2 kids from a previous relationship and his life is less ‘stable’ than me (like a bad boy) so that was a dealbreaker for me. Parted amicably though.
Anyway back to this current guy, he suggested to meet for food but didn’t follow through with an actual date. He’s going on holiday for 3 weeks so hinted would be after that. We’ve been talking for 1 week. Because there’s not much sparks I’m not sure I can wait 3 weeks? Texting can only go so far. I wanna meet to see if there’s something there. If nothing, I’ll move on. I’m not waiting for anyone else, I have other things to do.
If sparks were flying like the last guy, I’d be happy to wait 3 weeks yes but because it’s more of a “boring but stable” encounter this time, there’s not an instant ‘fascination’ with him.
what’s your thoughts? Any advice? Should I just leave it and ghost?
note: I’m a good girl, don’t drink don’t smoke don’t sleep around and I’m a commitment girl and have strong sense of responsibilities and ethics but I can’t help but wonder… why I’m drawn to “bad boys” more than “good guys”. I noticed I like “bad boys”