Cutting/judgemental comments from friend on parenting

[stillsleeptraining]

I have a friend who is a lot of fun and we get on really well. 20 year friendship. However, since I had DC 6 years ago, she's not happy that I don't make it out very much and talk about kids a bit when I do. She has older kids. I don't talk about kids that much, but it's such a big part of my life that I thought it was normal to share a bit!

The worst is that she's made really cutting comments about my parenting, such as saying we are pathologising our eldest by going through the ASD diagnosis process at 6. Without going into it too much, eldest has a lot of challenges and we desperately want to support them (and life isn't exactly easy for the rest of the family in this context).

I'm so hurt by the comments, but it's kind of just who she is. She's judgey and blunt. But these comments have cut too deep.

Do I cut her off or get over myself? I don't have that many friends.

I am sorry but its non of your BF business how you decide to raise your DC. Non whatsoever. It would also irk me if I heard BF say anything re my DC diagnosis.

You know your child, what their needs are.

Rather than place so much emphasis on BF remarks remember you are thankfully doing the best thing for your child and clearly a good parent.
In good friendships talking about our children is normal. It cannot be helped and if this so called friend values you, then she would not say something so cutting.

Perhaps let this one slide? Is this the first time she has been so rude?