What kind of therapist does my DH need to see?

[milesmachine]

Bit of a goady thread title but I'd appreciate some advice!

My DH is generally a kind and loving husband and father but has always struggled to manage stress. He will get very upset and angry over small things that I would consider insignificant

Since having children he's become very aware of the impact and atmosphere this can cause in the household so suppresses it but I can see by his mannerisms he is still getting cross and he's not really dealing with the root cause

Recently he's also showing classic signs of anxiety although says he doesn't feel anxious (doesn't have panic attacks or feels his heart beating out of his chest)

He's agreed to see someone professionally as recognised his dad was also like this and they had a fractious relationship he doesn't want to repeat with our DC

But I don't know where to start. I've no idea what sort of therapist he needs to speak to? We're lucky enough to have private healthcare through work but when I've rung they've asked what sort of appointment we want and I don't really know!

Can anyone suggest a type of therapy they've had success with in managing stress/anger and anxiety?
Thank you

I would 100% say NOT CBT.

I understand what you're saying about why you're researching this, Op. However, the fact it's your healthcare plan paying for it doesn't mean he can't do the research. Being in bed with Covid is an ideal time to surf the net looking for answers.

Ofcourse you want to help your DH (and in turn your whole family) but if he isn't pushing forward for this, researching everything he can, keen to find a solution, then it suggests he isn't as up for it as you are.

He maybe thinks he's up for it, but in reality he isn't willing to do the running. Or he's just saying what he thinks he should say. If he isn't 100% up for it, he won't succeed. And worse - he can blame you, as it's you that suggested that course of therapy. He needs to be at the front of this, and to make the decisions, for it to stand a chance of being successful.

My post above comes from a place of experience. I did all the running, thought I was doing the right thing.

It made it easier for him to give up on solutions ('that xx you suggested was the wrong thing') and to blame me later on ('we wasted £xx and it was rubbish').

He needed to own it, to be at the front, to make the decisions, to stand a chance.