Picture in DH phone

[butterflywingss]

Me & DH have been on really bad terms recently.

I was looking for a particular photo on his phone to send to myself. However, I came across a photo that was sent from someone on WhatsApp. The picture is of a female hand that is turned and shows what appears to be 'cum' coming down her thumb and on her hand. I am mortified and frankly shaking.

How do I bring this up ? I have looked in his WhatsApp messages and can't see anyone on there with that picture which leads me to believe he has deleted the chat.

Could you reverse search the image? That way you might find out if it's some "stock" image sent from one of his immature friends or if it's a personal picture sent from OW?

I don't know how to do that? I have gone through each group and individual chats and can't see that photo anywhere. A few years back I found a similar photo of a female hand holding a letter but nowhere to find it in the chat. When I brought this up it was from a female colleague who has been an issue to us in previous times. I don't think it's the same girl given the skin tone.

I feel physically sick tbh. What's even worse is that it's next to a photo I sent of myself and my LO the same day. I will try what you said once he's back.

Take note of the phone number who sent it. It's unusual on whattsapp to not have a named sender. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that it's anything to do with his cum though if someone sent it to him.
On its own its pretty inconclusive, but as you say you are on bad terms, which can coincide with affairs. So this is a clue, be vigilant, there will be other signs. Then it's up to you what you want to do about it.

The problem is that it 100% looks like cum. I hope I am wrong! He has an android I don't think the number comes up, just the details time and date etc.

I've had so many different signs over the years but he's sooo good at playing good and convincing that he's not up to no good. If this picture is confirmed what I think it is, I am leaving him. I am also pregnant so I'm feeling even worse than I normally would.

Gut instinct is invaluable in this situation. If your gut instinct is telling you that this is shady behaviour on your husband's part then is probably is...

I know that's not what you want to hear and you were probably hoping for some "rational" explanation but I think it being an inappropriate photo from another woman IS a rational explanation.

Even if it is an inappropriate photo sent to him by a guy friend it's still highly inappropriate and quite frankly disgusting behaviour. Not at all what you would expect from respectful adult men. It says something that a friend would feel comfortable enough to send this photo to him also which would raise other questions. That's only IF that's the case here.

Honestly, I wouldn't waste time trying to work out who the woman is based on skin tone as different pictures in different lighting can change the tone of someone's skin. Because let's be honest, who it is, is irrelevant. It's what the photo represents. I don't think that this kind of image can have an "innocent" explanation. He's clearly deleted conversations and not been clever enough to check his what's app photo file as images sent are automatically saved. Having to delete conversations says enough in itself.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this chick. It's not what anyone, nevermind mother, wants to see from their significant other. You said your going through a bad patch, perhaps this is the push you need to call it quits and find your happiness again. You got this, you are so capable, strong and independent. I know you will come out of this shining like the star you are ⭐

Have you checked his archived WhatsApps?

Who knows, my mates and I have a group and some quite rude stuff is shared - 8/10 its just rude and funny but there is one mate who does overstep at times and send shocking stuff. but I never save the image normally, so in that respect if that was my phone it could be a one off, one he forgot to delete - seems a strange image to keep though.

I am happy to confirm I have jumped to conclusions this time. I did ask him and he said it's not cum and showed me where it was from. Turns out it was someone he knows who burned their finger and had some weird gel that looked like cum all over. I saw the chat myself so he wasn't lying this time. However, I did have reason to believe it was ill intentions given previous sneaky things that have happened.

This is exactly how I feel as well. I physically felt sick looking at it and then to see it wasn't what I thought, felt a relief but still that insecurity inside

Same with my ex wife, she had a fling, told me it was done and we sort of got on with things, I then found messages when she had said she was not in contact. After that I struggled to trust her and that led to more issues and arguments.