Can't seem to move on!!!

[ShonesM]

I broke up with someone almost 4 weeks ago. We were only together for 3 months but in that time, we did spend a lot of time together.

He ended things and went back to his ex (they were together on an off for about 12 years, no kids together). He had been single 6 months when I met him.

It hurt like hell when he ended things as I really did see my future with him, but I had to respect his decision and move on.

The issue is I cannot seem to move on and its really p**sing me off. We weren't even together that long! There has been zero contact so it’s not like that’s a reason for the way I feel. It’s not the first time that a relationship has not worked out for me so I know that in time it will get better but this time it just seems to hurt so much more than ever before.

I am trying to keep busy and trying not think about it too much, but it just seems to creep in and then I am overthinking it all repeatedly! The number of times I just burst out crying is unbelievable and the most annoying thing is I know he isn’t feeling the same way as he’s just picked up with the ex (now not so ex) and is having the time of his life!!

Does anyone else feel like this ………why can’t I stop thinking about him!

So sorry, I know this is such a self indulgent post and people are going through far worse than me.

Aw don't apologise for how you feel. It's tough when we like/love someone and we dont always see the signals.
You have been here before unfortunately, but that also means you will come out the other side and thrive again. Be kind to yourself.

In a very similar position so feel free to message if you want to chat.

With someone 9 months, everything perfect, us two and the 4 kids (2 each) went on holiday, had even talked high level about a big house... then the ex got back in contact (not kids dad) and she felt there was a spark there. Unlike you we had been in contact and when we met up there was more intimacy than there should have been for friends (kissing, holding hands, stroking legs).

I really thought she was THE one, have never felt like this about anyone, and any imperfections she thought she had I just loved along with everything else. That's the hard thing - had I acted like an idiot, been rude, not caring enough then that's down to me but there was nothing I did wrong or nothing I could do to put right.

Am guessing you may have been similar - things perfect and then bang!! I miss her a lot, and seeing as our sons work together part time and we live less than 3 miles from each other our paths will cross.

I’m feeling the same. I was with him 5 years and I’d been through and put up with a lot. Things that should make me hate him. But I can’t stop thinking about him, miss the good times, he’s caused more hurt since we’ve been finished. I keep thinking what is wrong with me to not be over him. I feel like I’ll never meet anyone like him again. He was the love of my life. I feel like I’ll always love him and her be over it.