Need opinions that I’m not going mad!!!
My husband of 3 yrs/4yrs together is mentally draining me he’s obsessed with my middle sons dad when I say obsessed I mean anything triggers him, in the beginning of our relationship he ended up going to my exes house and having an argument as me and my ex were arguing cut a long story short he goes in a mood everytime I drop my son off or when he messages which is always to do with our child, we are civil for our son. Anyway today is my son’s dad’s birthday and he’s started a full blown argument saying I shouldn’t tell my son it’s his dad’s birthday my son is 11 btw. It’s my husbands birthday tomorrow and he says I don’t remind my kids that’s it’s his birthday in advance which I do!! Bearing in mind me and my sons dad have been split up 7 years and I went on to have my daughter to someone else (not my husband) I met him with 3 kids. He also stopped contact in the beginning with my daughters family (nana etc) her dad isn’t really involved but his family were and I stupidly listened. He is constantly throwing my past at me with my middle son’s dad mainly. Saying he’s a dead beat etc (which he could do more alot more) to also add he has a child which he stopped contact last year because his child’s behaviour was too much for him he said which I didn’t agree and still don’t! And he hates his child’s mother. He says he has the problem with me not my ex but my exs name is causing a weekly argument even down to he says I should tell him everytime he messages for my son and I treat to a scum bag (my ex) better than him! This has been going on for 4 years now and everytime I say I’ve had enough i believe him that he won’t torcher me anymore but it does week after week! I darent wear makeup when dropping off my son as I will 💯 get accused it’s for him etc….
he always goes on to say this kill’s me arguing with you can we stop this and I end up forgiving and then bag a week or 2 later same stuff time and time again this is just a tip of the iceberg