Floored by horrible ex meeting someone else, why?

[Notgettinganyyounger23]

I've posted a few times. My ex was horrible and cheated and I finally called it a day in January. It's been horrible, with one thing and another. We live close to each other, he is close to my children, we have lots of joint friends. He wasn't but had now started socialising back in our local pub so paths cross occasionally. We didn't talk for a long while, he then attempted suicide, messaged me and I was there to support. We then communicated on a civil basis. He has now said he's met someone else and for some reason it's floored me, I've been in tears all day. I don't think it's because I want him back, it's possibly anger, i have no idea. I'm not in a great place at the moment and I'm unbelievably sad at the years wasted etc. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone else, I've put on weight and its just not coming off. Is it jealousy? That's such a horrible trait. I'm annoyed with myself I really am.

Oh that's been such a lot to deal with.

Maybe one element of your feeling floored is that the messiness of everything past is finally over. He is now, very definitely, someone else's problem, and you don't have to think about him in the way you did. Quite an adjustment to make. And if you're feeling low about yourself for other reasons, that will be an upset as well.

I think I would have reacted the same way, you had genuine feelings for him at one point, I guess it's kind of mourning that.

You know you wouldn't ever want him back but sounds like you've been through some serious times with this guy, it's going to bring out a whole range of emotions.

Be kind to yourself,the majority of being able to loose weight is getting in the right mindset, you sound like a lovely person, you can do anything you set your mind to x

Good point. OP, his suicide attempt being made your issue presumably prolonged the feeling that he’s somehow still your problem, and now this is a very obvious signal that’s no longer the case. I can imagine it feels like a shock, but it will come to seem like a good thing in time.

I guess so, I sent a couple of messages I'm not proud of, wish i was restrained enough to take the dignified high ground. I know he will feel nothing about showcasing her off in the local pub and I'm just not able to deal with that right now. But being at home on my own won't make me feel better either.