Finding Viagra

[Holly6785]

So there it was hidden in his wash bag, (hidden loose tablets in a hotel soap box)I went in for the nail clippers after a shower.
I've always said if we have problems (cos he's said that he had in the past) then we'd go to the GP for help. I'm not surprised given he's 60 however I feel sad he couldn't tell me, I suppose it's an ego thing. I'm just disappointed I suppose we couldn't talk it through.

Hotel soap box?
Did you stay in that hotel with him? If not, who did stay there that he needed Viagra?

Count the tablets.
Count them again after you have intimate time with him. Does the total add up?
Could he be using them for private time?

Don’t jump to too many conclusions but you might do well to have a chat with him.

Sweet fucking Christ @Ladyprehensile ! OP has said absolutely nothing about suspecting her partner is having an affair, she's just upset that he felt he couldn't talk to her.

Why on earth would you go straight to accusing him of being up to something?

@Holly6785 I occasionally suffer from ED, and I have some little blue pills hidden away that DP doesn't know about. For me they're a backup. They're there just in case, and it stops me worrying about it as much about it. And if I'm not worrying about it, then its less likely to happen. As a result I've not actually needed to use them as yet.

Why is your first assumption that this man is having an affair rather than the fact he's simply experiencing a medical condition that he might feel embarrassed about ? And in what way is it helpful to OP to plant that seed based on ZERO evidence

OP - leave him his dignity. It’s no fun getting old as it is.
YOU may have wanted to discuss his issues with decreasing virility. But I am not sure this sort of conversation with their partner is something that guys want to face. It is more a conversation that can kill whatever self esteem he still has.

OP - Stop making it about YOU.

I'd let him keep the mystery he think's he's got. I wouldn't fancy being in charge of an erection at 60.

I won't be counting them, I knew someone would be straight into that!
Yeah I suppose he doesn't want me to know for a reason, embarrassment but tbh it's absolutely nothing to be awkward about but then again I'm not a man!

Unfortunately, no matter how OK with it you are, he's still going to find it embarrassing.

DP has always been really good about mine, but when it happens, I still feel like I've failed, that DP is going to think I'm not attracted to her etc. Mines psychological rather than age related, its been happening periodically since my 20s, but I imagine having to accept that your body is starting to fail you in that specific way due to age has to be a bit distressing as well.

If he doesn't bring it up, then I'd recommend you don't. Not everything has to be shared and if he wants this to be private, I'd let him. He knows theres a problem, and he's taken steps to rectify it. He probably thinks he's sparing your feelings my keeping quiet about it. I'd let him keep thinking that,

As far as I’m concerned, it’s a (legal) recreational drug. He’s not going to shout about a possible problem. Nor is he letting sleeping dogs lie. Good on him! Women tend to get poked about by all and sundry, while men ignore problems.

I don't be raising it with him (pardon the pun) as I think it's his dignity more than anything!