Im 35 and live independantly. I have 2 children. My parents are not very fun to be around. Ive found them hard work as an adult. I feel like a child around them even though i work and manage my own life fine. I recently went away with my kids alone. My mum and dad are 70ish and my mum in particular is addicted to social media and shes very false online. Our relationship can be defensive
I dont have a serious relationship. But i have a male friend i see when the kids are with their dad. I went out with him 5 years ago it went wrong because he was severely depressed after loosing his home due to his landlord selling. He ended up living with a friend and cut me off whilst depressed because he was ashamed and depressed at his situation and he couldnt at the time pay me back £800.
He returned into my life december 2022 with a job, flat and paid me back. My mum has forcefully told me not to let him round my new place. But weve become really at peace and we are basically companions. We take it in turns to cook and watch tele. Have a bbq. Sometimes we go for a walk or a short trip out.
Today i need help with my garden and i dont want my dad to do it. I want to do it with said friend. So hes coming up this morning and staying until tonight. Im absolutely terrified of my mum and dad making a spontaneous trip today. Ive been living in this fear now for 18 months and im sat im a state of anxiety whenever hes here. I bluddy hate it.
What should i do? Any advice. My brain just freezes at the looks on my parents faces if they saw him.