DH, married 6y, disagrees with every opinion, huffs and puffs over everything I do, and instantly zones out - usually to his bff the iPhone - if I try to share anything about my day, my feelings etc. But he also makes a fuss about how he's not listened to or respected enough in the house, including by 2xteenage DDs. Sometimes I swallow my natural inclination to tell him to stop being a giant baby and I think about playing the game, saying the right things to soothe his ego and make life a bit smoother in the household. But more and more I just simply can't be bothered to muster the energy for that fakery, and feel like the idea that anyone should just give me respect and attention just for being me is a concept totally alien to most women, but always expected by men.
He insists he loves me more than anything, but the evidence for that is zero. No affection; always on his phone. He only wants sex if his libido tells him (rarely) and never because he's actually attracted to me. He has no intention of changing or ending the relationship but it feels really pointless to me. Not really asking for actions from the group, just wondering what others experiences are like of partners who don't remember why they liked you in the first place 😆