Pregnant and unhappy

[Bm2015]

Hi I’m 32 weeks pregnant, it’s my 3rd child, 1st with my fiance, got engaged few months ago, he’s young kids from previous relationship, we have the kids regularly, I treat them as my own, they stay at my house, but he never tells me nothing about how kids are during week but is texting the mum daily, anyway my issue is he definitely has a drink problem and a cocaine, he promises me the world it will stop etc, never happens, I don’t believe any more and I am fed up hearing his lies. He works away and comes home for weekends, from the moment he’s home to he’s gone it’s all about drink. He’s always sneaky on phone also, and making jokes about my ‘other man’ it really pisses me off, It’s not the life I want. I think I may be better alone. I do love him but I feel taken for granted, I feel he has it too cushy with me staying in my house, driving my car, not contributing to nothing. I do know if I leave things would be nasty and he would Make my life hell. Sorry don’t really know what I’m asking 😢😢

Yes he works. I’m off at the moment

My kids

That's it then, there's only one choice.

End the relationship.

Living with an alcoholic drug addict is unfair on them and as adults, whether or not they replicate that behaviour (which is more likely the longer they witness their mum choosing to be in a relationship with an alcoholic drug addict) they will likely resent you for not removing them from that situation.

With that in mind, are you definitely going to end the relationship)

@Bm2015 Well that's good as you would get maintenance if you separated. Are you on mat leave?

OP I am sorry you're in this situation.
Are you afraid of this man?

You said he'd make your life hell if you split up.

In what way? And why do you say he doesn't contribute to your household? Do you pay for everything? For his children's food, while they're with you?

Ignore the judgemental comments clearly a lot of people here must live the picture perfect life, you didn’t post on here to receive comments like that no one knows your life or what your kids see or don’t see I know a lot of women in a similar situations and there kids are not exposed to seeing it and they are not a bad mother for there useless partners actions unfortunately you can’t help who you fall in love with and your not a future teller either. You could have met the nicest most charming put together man and then a few years down the line find out he’s a narcissist for example. My personal advice would be it’s highly unlikely he will change cocaine is a horrible drug and I’ve known many people to take it as a party drug and quickly become an addict and behave in a way that isn’t them I would try sitting him down and saying either your behaviour stops along with the drinking and drug taking or I’m done and stick to it until you see him change and decide to give him another chance of decide to not go back with him but it’s easier said than done but your kids will suffer because it’s going to effect you being your best self which will then effect them also you need to look after yourself your feelings and your unborn. Baby who will also be suffering from your stress which he is causing I really hope your ok and ignore all the nasty comments x

I can't see any nasty comments @TerrieG

im not referring to your comments I’m referring to other comments saying she’s a bad mum blah blah when she’s clearly feeling down enough came onto this forum to get her feelings out and maybe some advice and had comments back which probably made her feel a whole lot worse than she did before