My daughter is struggling with her boyfriend

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My DD 26 is living with her bf (26) he is not from round here and doesn’t have family here, they work for the same company (different roles).
they live about 6 miles away from us (her family) and her friends due to rental prices etc, they love where they live but no one close enough for them to just pop in.

His father and brother live far away and his only contact apart from texts and the odd phone call Is on the X box. This is where the issue starts, he insists on playing every single spare minute of the day/ evening with either dad or brother. DD manages to get him off it briefly say Saturday morning but he just wants to get home to start playing again, if she says let’s do something he just shrugs and says we went out earlier and I’m entitled to play with them they are family.

she doesn’t have an issue with him playing on it as it’s family and he can’t go visit them (live too far away plane journey etc), but it’s taking over his life and she is then stuck in on her own basically unless she drives somewhere to visit friends/ family which she doesn’t want to do all the time, any suggestions, has anyone else had similar I fear it may end the relationship

Just to add for example today he woke up at 10.30 went to the gym, came home and has been on x box all day since (it’s now 9pm)

It should end the relationship. I'm not against gaming at all, but this man's gaming is at a dysfunctional level where it is affecting what should be his main relationship. Your DD probably needs to prepare for it to be over, she deserves better.

Your daughter is young
Its a new relationship It should be all hearts
flowers, Gooeyness

finish with him now.

Why do you fear it may end the relationship? She’s 26 and should be able to conclude that she is not in a healthy relationship.

I'd be thrilled if she ended the relationship

If that was my DD, i’d encourage her to look at the bigger picture and end it with him. The amount of time on games is of an addiction level here. When do they have time together? He is basically ignoring her with the feeble excuse of playing with family members. If it’s not family, i bet he’d still be on xbox all day.
If they have kids and this carries on, then what? If they get a place together which needs cleaning, who’s going to be doing it? Her. Cause he’ll be too busy being addicted to his games.
Does he have an addictive personality overall, even if he stops, what is going to replace it? Pub?
overall it doesn’t sound healthy.

When I was her age my fiance was like that, I left him at it was never going to change and I wasn’t coming second to a computer a day longer.

She wants to throw this one back in the sea. Obviously.

Agree with PP - why does it matter if it ends the relationship? In fact, it should end the relationship. He sounds boring and indifferent.

Absolutely it should end the relationship. Can you imagine if they have children. She would have to do everything alone. She shouldn't have to push her bf to spend time with her when all he wants to do is get on the x box.

And 6 miles is what a 15min drive ? Of course it's close enough to pop in!!

Update, they are going on holiday in a weeks time, she is going to have a discussion with him about this when they are away and see if he agrees he’s been unreasonable, if he can’t and he insists on continuing she will end the relationship,