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Idc if he cheats.

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Helplessbeth · 05/05/2024 22:45

The title says how it is.
I don't care anymore, even if he cheats on me.
sounds shallow doesn't it? We've got two young child I've been a sahm since they was born. My family even say I have 3 children including my husband.
if my husband didn't have a brain attached every morning I would need to apply it but even if I did apply it, it would be wrong.
my husband criticises me a lot, my looks, my hair, my clothes and now my personality. I know it's my fault as it's been going on for so long but I can't leave.
I can't leave because everything is in his name, not one bill is in my name and I wish I could tell my 21 year old self that it's stupid and that's it's stupid to give up my career ( I did have a good career as a dental nurse)
my husband doesn't like anything about me anymore (his words) so where do I go from here? I can't kick out my husband anymore because I can't give him exact instructions what to do as he's so inadequate.
so it leaves me to today. A hot sunny day in England for a change I decided to walk the dog in my best dog walking clothes. A hoodie, shorts and no make up with my battered trainers as im about to leave he questions me why I look like such a mess. I explained I'm only walking our dog and he gave me a huge lecture about how woman should always look nice for her man! lol. The same man who wears the same underwear 4 nights in a trot.
I peacefully took our dog on the lead and told him 'I wish you would cheat on me to leave me alone as I do not care anymore' it's been 5 hours since my last comment and no communication since.
i don't even think I need advice I just need a rant about my husband with half a brain cell. I'm just done, tomorrow I'm speaking to my family member who's a lawyer. Is rather have nothing than a man who puts me down everyday.

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HappyCaroline · 06/05/2024 00:45

Go you! Good luck x

Josette77 · 06/05/2024 00:48

Good for you!

You can easily be a dental nurse again! 🌷
Honestly you are doing well. I did not have a career when I left my ex.

I was an ex model/actress and I'd love to go back but the hours wouldn't work as my ds has sn's and I'm his full time care giver.

You are seriously in a pretty good position. I'm really excited for you. ❤️

MMadness · 06/05/2024 09:29

Umm. Go back to work. Get some independence and fuck him off.

Same underwear for 4 days. Vile.

Modelling this relationship behaviour to your children is dangerous. Do you want them to be as accepting as you? Or as despicable as your husband?

Do better.

Helplessbeth · 06/05/2024 10:51

MMadness · 06/05/2024 09:29

Umm. Go back to work. Get some independence and fuck him off.

Same underwear for 4 days. Vile.

Modelling this relationship behaviour to your children is dangerous. Do you want them to be as accepting as you? Or as despicable as your husband?

Do better.

'Do better'

what do you think I'm trying to do?

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