Clare’s law and Sarah’s law

[Slightlyunnerved]

I’ve name changed for this. Last week a message was left for me at work. It was a man and he used my full name and told me to contact Clare’s law and Sarah’s law. The receptionist asked for a name, he gave my partner’s name, then the receptionist asked for his number but he hung up. No number showed up on the receptionist’s phone so I have no idea who called. I know malicious allegations have been made against my partner by his ex (police and solicitors are involved, it was all financially driven) but no charges have been brought. I’ve seen police reports stating he has no previous convictions and I do believe the allegations are purely malicious. If I did do a Clare’s law or Sarah’s law request, would it show up allegations or is it just charges? I believe it was the ex’s new partner who made the call to my workplace but I’m unnerved that they went to the effort of actually contacting my workplace. I have been with my partner for two years and I have no concerns about him whatsoever but this call has really put me on edge.

But there's a way to find out if they're untrue.

Please, please make that call.

After being in an abusive relationship, I vowed I would never let that happen to me ever again.

I did a Clare's law request around 4 months into dating a subsequent partner. We'd had an argument and something about the way he behaved just didn't sit right with me, so I put the request in.
Around a week later, a lovely female officer called me and yes, there were several violent incidents she needed to tell me about. So that was that relationship ended instantly.

I know you said OP that you have no concerns about your partner, but this is really, really not a reason to not do it.
The phone call is discreet, he will never found out.

You said you are worried he would be hurt if he found out you'd put a request in. Why? That in itself is worrying. If he's a decent man he would understand your motivations. Please don't put upsetting a man above your children's safety.

If I found out (through a partner telling me) a request has been put in about me, I'd be confused yes, but ultimately I'd end up respecting my partner more for being a responsible person/parent and putting theirs and their children's safety first.

In addition, if anything is disclosed to you and you continue to have contact with your partner and allow him to have contact with your children, social services will look very unfavourably upon this and you will be considered to be failing to safeguard your children.

Please, please do it.

Op please just do the checks and don’t tell him. It seems mad this person would go to the effort of warning you just as a wind up

Please make the call and don't tell him you are doing it. You have already given him the heads up by discussing the phone call. Do you really think all women in abusive relationships would have knowingly put their children in danger? Of course not. They trusted their partner too because these men can be incredibly charming and often target empathetic women. His children may never have seen this side of him, so I wouldn't let that sway you. You say you've seen police reports, why would he have these? He may be showing you what he chooses to show you. Be careful and stay safe. It may be malicious, in which case you'll put your mind at rest.

I’ve just done an online request so I should know one way or another very soon.

I think you'll always just have a niggle if you don't.
if it comes back clear, no one ever has to know in RL that you did it.

If it comes back with something then you can make a decision with all the evidence in front of you.

Just to update - heard back yesterday, nothing to disclose, so it was a malicious call.