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Fed up!

2 replies

chefofthemanor · 05/05/2024 20:13

Evening everyone

NC for this post.

Just need a rant!

DH and I have been together 17 years, married 8 years. We have 3 children 10, 7 and 2. Child one has a disability, I receive carers allowance so it's over 35 hours of care for my eldest. Dh works full time, I work part time 15 hours a week. Sometimes overtime taking it to 20hrs. I do all schools run (2 different places twice a day) daily. I also have a condition that is extremely painful at times.

He does do some washing at weekends and we both deal with bedtimes as they can be quite lengthy and stressful. He does do majority of the gardening, I do smaller bits outside. I do majority of the cleaning. He may occasionally wash up (although leaves the glasses 🤔) and run the hoover around downstairs.

We have had our ups and downs but are happy together,

However, I'm so sick to death of cooking. He doesn't cook at all. I usually make something for the kids earlier, as they have hot meals at school and then make something for us later on, He won't make any meals unless I nag (which I hate doing). We have spoken about it and it was decided by him he would cook one day at the weekend. This happened a few times then stopped. His idea of cooking is order a takeaway which annoys me even more! I try to batch cook where I can so it's less for me to do. He won't even make breakfast or lunch. It's exhausting.

Would I be unreasonable to set up a rota? Or just stop cooking his meals?

OP posts:
ThehillIwilldieupon · 05/05/2024 20:15

Just stop cooking his meals.

RandomMess · 05/05/2024 20:21

Hm he will just order take away though won't he?

A rota perhaps. Time at the weekend where you meal plan, on-line shop together and agree who is cooking when.

Do you get equal leisure time?

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