I can't find a man.

[Scarlet2906]

I'm 33yrs old and have never once been in a relationship.

I think I could offer someone a lot in a relationship. I have a good sense of humour, I'm friendly, I have a kind heart and I'm easy-going as anything . I always expected to be settled down with children at my age. I suppose I can be a bit shy and weary around men and maybe I don't try hard enough to meet someone, maybe that's the problem.

I go on Facebook dating but the conversations usually lead nowhere. Men don't usually even approach women anymore it seems. When I was younger I didn't go out clubbing or to pubs very often and I didn't go to college either so I missed my chance to meet someone the way people usually do. I also don't have a large social circle, which is probably also part of my problem.

I went on a few dates with a man from my workplace but he seemed shy and we didn't really hit it off. He messaged me and said he didn't want to meet again. I felt like there was something wrong with me that put him off.

I see couples together with children and I feel so lonely and depressed.

Do you think I'm just sending out negative signals and making men not want to approach me? How did you meet your other half and do you have any advice on what are the best places to meet people?

I don't know that you're giving a negative impression, just sounds like you're not putting yourself out there.

Have you tried any other dating sites? Hobby groups? I didn't try Facebook dating but haven't heard anything good about it. More that it's people already on Facebook half arsing rather than seriously looking for a partner. I had the best luck with paid Match and Hinge (best of all as I found DP but not the most well used).

It's not hard to find someone but to find the right one can be quite a lot of effort.

To add, walking and running groups tend to have a good mix of men and women, also try speed dating etc. You need to be getting out there.

Invest in yourself. Therapy to talk through your self confidence issues and a stylist to glow up. You are still young at 33! Don't wait. By 35 you will batting them away with sticks.

Close friends of mine met through an introduction agency. and have been happily married now for 20 years. You have to pay for the service, but they had real people interviewing the applicants, which made it safer and more reliable than online dating. One I’ve heard good reports of is Drawing Down the Moon.

Best of luck, OP.

And I think you have to commit yourself to finding someone, same as you’d commit yourself to a new job. Don’t just wait and hope.

You can, but how many of those people will be the right ages and also single - Use other OLD platforms, have good quality pics, and a decent description

It sounds like you're being very passive OP and you can't do that and expect someone wonderful to just turn up in your life. When I was single I went out all the time, I said 'Yes' to invitations, I was friendly and chatted to anyone, in other words I put myself out there. If all you're doing is going on Facebook Dating (which I've never heard of), then you're not doing enough and at 33 you need to get yourself out there, particularly if you want to have a family.