Hello,
Name changed for this but have been around for a few years. Would be really grateful for some views and experiences on this.
DP and I, both mid-20s, living together, no kids. Last week a new employee started at his work, a woman in her mid-20s. She was hired by one of the owners who has form for hiring younger women he (the owner) finds attractive, rather than making sensible appointments based upon experience and skills.
Anyway DP is partially responsible for training the new employee, and has been doing so this week. When we are chatting about work, I have noticed that he "adjusts himself" every time he mentions her in passing. I have tried to tell myself otherwise, but it's beginning to make me feel physically sick and I'm increasingly unable to appear nonchalant. He has also been messaging me much less this week, and seems to have more pent-up sexual energy than usual.
Am I being nuts? Am I being unfair? Is this part and parcel of being in a relationship? I would love to be a cool girl, believe me, but I'm feeling really unwell. Happy to be told that I'm nuts. Thanks in advance.