I have a 4 month old baby and since he’s been 8 weeks old my MIL has been asking for alone time with him and also every time we see her saying “I can’t wait till I can have you and take you to X,Y or Z”.
She sees him fortnightly as she tends to work opposite shifts as my DH and I don’t want to see her alone as she can be awkward with me and I don’t trust she won’t try and manipulate anything I say.
I’m finding it increasingly annoying that she keeps going on about alone time I don’t see why she can’t just enjoy the time she spends with him.
DS is EBF so I can’t just send him with DH.
DH feels the best thing to do is ignore it and if she asks explicitly for alone time again (like she did when he was 8 weeks old and we said no) then to say no.
I just wish she would stop going on about it though as it’s making me dread going to see them. The amount she’s going on about it makes me wonder why she is so interested in alone time- I feel she wants to play mummy which in itself is annoying.
What’s the best way to handle the situation?
We wouldn’t feel comfortable with alone time as we feel she is not physically capable (has a bad shoulder and knee) and can be emotionally unstable and I honestly wouldn’t be able to relax with DS alone with her. He is also only 4 months old and EBF.
She keeps making comments about BF (that it’s no different to formula and I could stop) and I know she wants me to stop as she wants alone time. Not that there is anything wrong with formula but BF is working well for me and DS.
Just finding it all a bit frustrating and I’m dreading spending time with her and I want to have a good relationship with her for DH and DS sake.