I did post a thread a week or so back about the breakup of my relationship. Short story, together 9 months (both around 50) and the best I have ever had, loving relationship with no arguments at all, everything I ever wanted. Despite that, when her ex messaged she realised there were suppressed feelings for him and in the end she decided to end things as she thought the spark greater there. We did try radio silence but we both message each day and ended up meeting up 4 times this week when we said we wouldn’t. Both still have strong feelings for the other.
anyway. At the risk of sounding self indulgent, he is coming down today (Sunday) for a few days and have promised myself not to message and hopefully catch up with her weds when he has gone. Small chance she may realise the spark is not there as she thought but I doubt it. Luckily I am away today and tomorrow but just need some support to keep my promise to myself of not messaging and thinking how it’s going and getting myself down about it.