What’s going on here??

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My OH doesn’t sleep in the same room as me and never initiates or talks about having sex.
he says I am menopausal and not interested which isn’t true. I was tired for a time but now on HRT I’m fine. However he seems to think it’s a good enough excuse to not bother. And to blame me for the lack of intimacy.
i feel it’s really unhealthy - not sure what the point of the marriage is.

Is he telling you that you're menopausal and don't want sex, or other people?

Because it's pretty outrageous to tell you how you feel 😂What does he say when you go "no, I fancy a shag"?

It’s an excuse I think to avoid me

Yeah it’s an excuse OP.

Why don’t you just bite the bullet and say ‘ I’d like you to start sleeping in my bed so we can get back on track with being intimate’

He hasn’t got really anything to hide behind if you put it on the table like that.

Blaming you or gas lighting you isn’t on though

Just ask him outright if we can sex tonight. Also imagine if a man posted my wife wont have sex with me so what's the point in marriage 🤔

Yes, you should have a direct conversation about it but if he didn’t ask if HRT would mean you would be less tired and more up for it, then I agree it seems he’s not interested.

Is it possible he’s got his own age related issues, tiredness, erectile dysfunction that he doesn’t want to talk about?

Yeah I agree, conversation required.
Why did you start sleeping in different rooms and how long ago did that start?