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Pregnant & now single... sad

6 replies

booksandpizza · 04/05/2024 22:09

After a lot of advice and support from a lot of you on here (thank you from the bottom of my heart), my partner & I finally ended our unhealthy relationship.

(Please no judgy comments)

The thing is, whilst I know it's the right decision (as does he), I now will be single and pregnant (again)... I'm 13 weeks, I already have a 10 year old (and was single and pregnant with him too)...
I just feel so much shame. And I'm so upset because as much as I love him, I know we aren't good for eachother. I keep crying & my hearts in pieces. Knowing I'll be bringing this baby up alone (he will be relocating) and navigating motherhood with a newborn alone again is so so so sad.
I feel so ashamed of myself for getting into this situation again. And so so sad that another of my kids will essentially grow up without their father, like my first child has.
And whilst I know I'm fully capable of being a single parent, my son is an incredible boy, I know I can manage, it's just so bloody upsetting that this is happening again.

I'm not looking for any advice really, just to vent. Altho if anyone has any advice or life experiences to help me overcome these feelings, that would be appreciated.
Thanks for listening without judgement

OP posts:
MotherOfCrocodiles · 04/05/2024 22:34

Sorry to hear this op. No useful experience but... this time you will have another person who also loves the baby, his big brother. Not another parent, but a family nonetheless

CC222 · 04/05/2024 22:47

Just know, that no matter how hard single parenting will be 2nd time around, it won't be as hard as being stuck in a toxic relationship where you'll probably end up doing it all alone anyway...
You've got this. Don't doubt yourself and this time around, baby will have a big sibling to help and dote on them ♥️

Englishman2024 · 04/05/2024 22:56

Any child is a blessing. I hope you celebrate that and I'll m sure you will find a way

booksandpizza · 04/05/2024 22:57

Thank you so much for your replies both of you, I didn't think of it that way. I guess I'm just feeling like I've failed again.

But you're right, they'll have their big brother this time around and he will be an amazing big brother. Thank you for that❤️

OP posts:
CatchTheBalloon · 04/05/2024 22:58

Well you've done it before so you know you can do it again

commonsense12 · 04/05/2024 23:14

Don't be getting into any relationships for a while

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