Should I ask him to leave ?

[Tattyteddy2]

Hi all, as per the title...situation is as follows.
1 dd who is nearly 2 and currently 6 months pregnant.
Financially I own (mortgaged) the property we live in. Partner contributes 600 pcm towards other bills, this includes groceries. All maintenance on the house is covered by myself, this includes decorating and furnishing kids bedrooms.
I work full time Mon to Fri, partner works full time shifts and then does other work on his days off. We only have childcare 3 days a week but if he is working extra jobs I will always have to use my annual leave or try and make other arrangements.
Partner goes out 1 day a week without fail all day, I go out....never.
Practically speaking in terms of parenting, he's OK, but I worry about her when I'm not there as he'll carry on doing what he wants to do and leave her to amuse herself, only this week she fell about 3 feet onto concrete whilst I was at work as he left her tottering on the garden.

I'm feel rubbish, totally rubbish. I'm struggling to finance the cost of a new baby, and wonder how I'll manage going forward. I feel totally unsupported.

I'm trying to come up with good points so it's a fair judgement but honestly I'm struggling. He is handy around the house but has no willingness to do anything around the house nor will he pay towards things around the house so that's a pointless antribute.

If we were to separate, how do I go about it? I have asked him to leave before and he didn't go. I also wouldn't want my dd to hear an argument

Pack his stuff up and change the locks? Would you be in danger if you essentially threw him out?

@Nicebloomers I don't think I'd be in danger, however that would be final, he wouldn't come back (if he goes)

Yes you should. He's bringing nothing to your life. Falling three feet? Did she go to hospital?

Would that not be a good thing?

Yes, get him to leave

No, I didn't know it had happened until I came home from work, i checked her over and kept an eye on her and she was fine thankfully

I'm just so worried about how it would affect my dds, growing up with us separated

Well if he carries on not looking after her it might not be relevant. She'll be fine without him as long as she has you. Honestly.

I’m assuming you are not married given you refer to him as your partner.

He’s onto a good thing isn’t he!
£600 per month!! Wow, that’s a pittance for all the benefits of living with you provides. Some folks spend that on their grocery bill alone.

I hate to say it but he’s a cklodger isn’t he?

The kids will survive. Plenty do. Stop sacrificing yourself on the altar of this unbalanced relationship.

Kick him out.

But you’d rather they grew up thinking this is what relationships look like?

Come on op, pull the band aid off already, pack his shit and change the locks. He’s a loser.

The kids will be fine and it’s better to do it now rather than later.

'Gotten yourself pregnant again'??! Have a word with yourself

Why bother to write such unhelpful things? Why kick someone who’s already down?

OP, he is no good either as a partner or a father. Your children will be safer and better off with one good parent — that’s you. Tell him to leave, and call the police if he refuses.

*Got yourself pregnant again...Is that better for you ?

Immaculate conception was it?!

It's actually American English, simple Google search will help you sweetie 😘

And that would be perfect. You'll be happier. Your kids will be better off without him.