Why can't I get over someone who used coercive control and emotionally abused me

[unknownmember123]

I'm really struggling this guy has dumped me over and over and then cried and pleaded for him to do it again. This guy manipulated me called me crazy. Blamed me for every thing cheated lied. I hate him but no matter how I try I miss him. I just want him out of my head.
Has any one been in awful situation did you finally get over him ?

You will get over him, it's just that trauma bond effect from the abuse.

It might help to do the Freedom Programme and some work on rebuilding boundaries and self-worth.

I feel for you, unknown. You will get over him and it is good that your relationship has finished, however he hurt you badly and that in itself is difficult to recover from. There were obviously some good things about him which you loved, and now miss, which makes it even harder.

These things take time but it will pass and you will feel better, honestly.