The below is a transcript from the audio from a camera that is set up in the living room for when no one is at home (it was still on)
Person 1: Why you started studying again?
Person 2: Because I want to start studying again.
Person 1: Why now?
Person 2: Because I’ve been meaning to do it for years.
Person 1: Why RIGHT now?
Person 2: What do you mean why now?
Person 1: It’s like there’s no inaudible you’re always trying to put things in the way.
Person 2: No no no, not at all, I’m trying to focus on myself.
Person 1: what about relaxing?
Person 2: and do what?
Person 1: settle and then look into it
Person 2: what do you mean settle?
Person 1: * just started a local school and already you’ve put something else in the way.
Person 2: what do you mean put something else in the way? Person 1: Study
Person 2: No, no no, else in the way, else in the way of what? Person 1: Us, everything
Person 2: What do you mean us, everything? The whole purpose, and reason why I have been struggling is I don’t know who I am anymore, everything I’ve ever wanted to do, I can’t do.
Person 1: You can just use this to chill out a little bit.
Person 2: But that’s my problem, is I’ve not been able to do what I’ve been wanting to do.
Person 2 mentioned about someone saying to them person 1 being controlling, as I’ve been wanting to go into work once person 1 is home/on the weekend to catch up with work as it’s been impossible with the kids and person 1 does not like me going, expects me to be able to do everything in business hours.
Person 1: How am I being controlling?
Person 2: You got funny with me wanting to go out to get our daughter medication. I just feel like I can NOT do anything I want to do. I went out at the weekend, running around getting bits and bobs for ready for school on Monday, on Sunday whilst your mum had the kids, I rang you and asked if it was ok, I come home and you have the hump with me because you’ve been sat here all alone and we haven’t done anything together.
Person 1: I didn’t realise you was going to be out for so long
Person 2: but I told you I was doing everything and then going to your mums to pick up the girls and coming back. I’m scared to ask to go out and do stuL now, it is getting to that point, I’m scared that I wanna stay at home and then you’re going to make me feel bad because we’ve been stuck indoors all day, there’s times I don’t want to go out.
It’s like the other day I was exhausted because I’d had 3 hours sleep the night before, but because I’ve gone to bed, whilst you’re driving home, not knowing where you are, you’ve come up going “oh, you go to bed as I’m coming home” even though I was sitting here falling asleep.
You just said why have I started studying again because I’ve put it in front of us,
Person 1: I don’t see what that’s got to do with anything.
Person 2: because I’m saying I need to do something for me, but I can’t do anything for
me, it feels like I can’t do anything for me.
Person 2: Yeah, to being able to do something.
Person 1: When do we have time
Person 2: finish doing what I want to do.
Person 2: I’ll just give up everything, I’ll just do work, come home.
Person 1: Just do what you always do and do what you want.
Person 2: No, I’ll just fuck everything and be yours and do whatever you want me to do.
Person 1: All I’m saying is why can’t you just chill out for a little while, you’ve gone from
mad rushing around all day every day picking the girls up and doing to being able to
do something and you’ve just thrown something else in front of your face.
Person 1: Oh whatever.
Person 1 then left the room and went upstairs. Person 2 followed after 5 minutes.
The following is the reconciliation of person 2. .
Which I do understand, there are always two sides to every story. But person 2 doesn’t make stuD up, controlling had never even entered their mind until now!
A discussion continued about how person 2 must feel that person 1 is controlling for person 2 to be giving that impression to other people.
To be honest, not much of the conversation can be recalled, but it ended up with Person 1 saying.
Person 1: Just do what you want, you always do anyways.
Person 1 walked oD making an inaudible remark about the relationship/marriage.
Am I in the wrong?