Any advice for a newly single mum?

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I’m 29 my partner of 6 years and I broke up last week, I have an 8 year old son. I’m not heartbroken over my ex. I’m heartbroken that my confidence is gone and the thought that I’ll be alone forever. Tried tinder to see what’s out there which has honestly made me feel worse. I have good friends and family but even so, feel lonely and sad.

Hey, you only broke up last week. Take some time out to get your head around it. Dont jump straight onto dating apps. Enjoy being single for a bit x

You don't want to be alone but what you're wanting to feel can't be found in the sea of unknown faces, start feeling ok with being alone first, get used to it, then only use online dating as a way to connect with others as potential dates, light hearted, don't go looking for a relationship as this needs to develop organically over time with the right one and most of them won't be right.

Give yourself time to adapt. Quite often a relationship ends up like a bad habit we miss even though it wasn't of any benefit to us, it's natural to try to fill the space it has left.

When I was newly single I made some questionable decisions regarding some questionable men trying to. But now I've been single for years and have genuinely never felt so content. It would take someone absolutely spectacular to make it worth giving up being single for.

Buy yourself something you really want for every birthday/ Christmas/Mother’s Day

change your bedroom furniture around and get new bedding as soon as you can afford

If your kids don’t ever see you put yourself first, how will they know you deserve it too?

Right now you need to recalibrate. That doesn’t include rebound dating.

Take some time for you. Eat well. Exercise. See family and close friends. Walk.

Only begin dating when you truly know it’s time. Now isn’t that time.

Op it's only been a week,a rebound relationship is the last thing you need right now,and tinder it's not the greatest place to look for dating.take some time to come to terms with the breakup,enjoy life,go for walks,meet other mums etc,in a few months look at dating again but maybe try bumble where its let's you be in control,or just go to social events,apps like meetup are a great way to make freinds and find new hobbies and interests.

Of course it hurts right now and your confidence will be shot,time is a healer but a week is just way too soon in my opinion

1 week and already on tinder?

jane Bollocks did you.
Reported.

While your feeling like this the worst thing you could do is try and date someone else. It's just getting them to fill a void at this stage

Dont do it, your vulnerable at the minute and will not attract a decent man, you'll attract men who want to use that vulnerability to gain somthing

After I split up with DC dad I rushed into another relationship, it did not end well and he wasnt very nice! And I didnt even learn my lesson.... i did it again with someone else too 🤦‍♀️

I've been single for 3 years now and honestly, I've never loved myself more. It would take someone absolutely amazing for me to even consider a relationship,

I'm genuinely happy on my own with my children, it's very very peaceful

You broke up last week and your already on Tinder? Slow down. Take some time to focus on yourself and build up your confidence otherwise you may end up with the wrong guy. So many assholes out there that will take advantage of a vulnerable woman.

I've been a single mam 18 months now. Although it was scary at first and I did worry about being alone forever, I love it now. Me and the kids are a team and my life is full with work, friends and family. I will start dating again one day but I'm not ready now. I'm also definite on the fact I don't want any men around my children. They've already lost their dad (he's no longer involved).. I won't risk a string of men coming in and out of their lives.

My advice would be, step away from all thoughts of dating, learn who you are now then revisit thoughts of dating at some point in the future.