Here we go again!!

[Silverstarz]

So partner is out on another bender (read previous posts) the usual shit being ignored etc thing is this time its different!!
I am in a different mind set, instead of hurling messages amd phone calls etc telling him how i have had enough am just gonna ignore it.
I will message him when i go to bed and tell him i habe left a key under the mat. I will lock the door. I will sleep downstairs on the sofa so when he comes to bed i wont be there to smell the alcohol and snorning. I have my 2 boys 9 and 11. We will watch a film and bring blankets downstairs and make it a film night.
In the morning i will speak calmly to him and tell him he needs to go asap and its over.
We are NOT married but have been together 20 years. We jointly own the house with no mortgage. His dad is signing over his house to my partner as he is moving abroad.
So with this info in mind would it be reasonable (legal wise) for me to be able to remain in the family home as the main care giver to the boys till they reach 18? Seeing as partner has another house he can live in??

Dont let him get into your head. You'll ultimately do what you want but you should leave him.
You want to spend your whole life on this merry-go-round?
You know what life is like with him, why would you stay.

Alcoholics very rarely change, and if they do it is completely from their own will. This situation is not that, he is simply saying he will change to have you back.

So, the only way you could choose to be with him, is if you fully accept that things are going to carry on exactly as they always have. Are you happy for that? can you accept that life?

if you want something better you need to buckle up sister, gather your strength, build your defences and move on.